GingerKat. I have to admit, I've never really understood gender disappointment. I had a friend who went through this a while ago and whilst I tried to be sympathetic, I couldn't empathise if you get what I mean. So it's really good to have it laid out clearly like this...makes it easier for me to understand (as much as possible).
In terms of the larger issue of gender selection, my knee jerk reaction is to be against it for the reasons VP and others have stated, but reading this thread is really making me re-assess. Now I don't know quite where I sit....
A friend of mine is against the blood test as she has heard of a couple using it to determine whether they would keep the baby. (It was a girl and they aborted, which to me is heart breaking)
For me it's so completely different it's almost impossible to answer. It's not because girls wear dresses and boys play with trucks. We all know that's not guaranteed. I have 3 girls and 1 boy and they are all different from each other but my 3 girls are just essentially different in many ways from my son and I know my life will be different with each of them as they age, but my girls will grow up possibly to become mothers themselves whereas my son won't be.
It's a lifelong journey that differs for each of us but our gender plays a definable part of that.
Our hair colour or eye colour does not.
Is your point that playing god with gender could potentially have more of a negative impact on society? Because I would agree with that.
Last edited by VicPark; 21-05-2016 at 22:45.
Atm I don't agree with gender selection for non medical reasons. I was the long awaited for "girl" and it didn't do me any good during childhood.
Eta. I'm not sure gender affects personality. Look up "the gender similarity hypothesis".
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