Ok I'm going to bravely write this then run and hide for fear of judgement, I know our wedding was not the norm.
I cringe when I think how much we spent (savings, no debt) but we were in a position to do it and I don't regret our wedding at all.
Total was close to $100,000 I'll break down the bits I know off the top of my head. This was for 95 people.
Suits & shoes DH + best man: $7000
Wedding planner/stylist: $5000
I'm not sure on the rest. The catering didn't include alcohol. That total figure doesn't include, accomodation, rings, honeymoon.