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    Definitely not OTT I would have done exactly the same without a second thought. I burst into tears one day early on when I went to pick up DD from child care. She was 8 months old and it was the first day I'd left her for them to put her down for a nap. You know she has sleep issues and we had just got things on track so I had done her nap for 2-3 visits to help her get settled. So this day I went to pick her up at 12:30 (dropped off at 9:30 and due for a nap). They tell me she wouldn't go down for a sleep so they kept her up and tried again to get her down at 12:15!! I freaked. So she had been asleep for 15 minutes and I thought I'll just take her home she must be exhausted and hopefully she'll stay asleep. Go in the bedroom and she was laying face down in the cot sobbing 😢 I was so upset they didn't call me as I work next door and they knew I'd been finding the childcare transition hard and I would have come to get her and just tried another day 😔
    There was also another day when we were still doing trials and I was going to leave her for the first time. It was bedlam in there that morning lots of upset babies needing attention at once and if i had left DD she may not have got attention so I stayed for an hour with her then took her home.
    Clearly I have major separation anxiety 😔
    But I definitely don't think what you did is OTT. I hope the next experience is much better.

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    I don't think you were OTT, but I probably would have approached it differently and just explained to the staff that she was new and needed a bit of extra attention. Yes, they should have been more aware, but things can get chaotic at times when there's new staff!

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    Not OTT. I would so speak to the director about what happened.

    My DS's childcare is pretty big. There are a lot of staff. But never once in over 2 years did DS get ignored. Thrre has always been someone to greet us and talk to DS and give him cuddles. Even when multiple kids are dropped off they all get attention until they are ok.

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    I would have done the same. Even if you had said something, they might have helped her for a minute and then who knows what would have happened after you left? If you left her there, you would just have been worrying about it all day.

    Last term, DD1 had a horrible preschool teacher and we just missed half the days, knowing that it was only for a term. I believe it's much easier to temporarily pull them out than try to change the behaviour of people who probably don't care as much as you do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gingermillie View Post
    Definitely not OTT I would have done exactly the same without a second thought. I burst into tears one day early on when I went to pick up DD from child care. She was 8 months old and it was the first day I'd left her for them to put her down for a nap. You know she has sleep issues and we had just got things on track so I had done her nap for 2-3 visits to help her get settled. So this day I went to pick her up at 12:30 (dropped off at 9:30 and due for a nap). They tell me she wouldn't go down for a sleep so they kept her up and tried again to get her down at 12:15!! I freaked. So she had been asleep for 15 minutes and I thought I'll just take her home she must be exhausted and hopefully she'll stay asleep. Go in the bedroom and she was laying face down in the cot sobbing 😢 I was so upset they didn't call me as I work next door and they knew I'd been finding the childcare transition hard and I would have come to get her and just tried another day 😔
    There was also another day when we were still doing trials and I was going to leave her for the first time. It was bedlam in there that morning lots of upset babies needing attention at once and if i had left DD she may not have got attention so I stayed for an hour with her then took her home.
    Clearly I have major separation anxiety 😔
    But I definitely don't think what you did is OTT. I hope the next experience is much better.
    😥😥😥😥

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    Quote Originally Posted by gingermillie View Post
    Definitely not OTT I would have done exactly the same without a second thought. I burst into tears one day early on when I went to pick up DD from child care. She was 8 months old and it was the first day I'd left her for them to put her down for a nap. You know she has sleep issues and we had just got things on track so I had done her nap for 2-3 visits to help her get settled. So this day I went to pick her up at 12:30 (dropped off at 9:30 and due for a nap). They tell me she wouldn't go down for a sleep so they kept her up and tried again to get her down at 12:15!! I freaked. So she had been asleep for 15 minutes and I thought I'll just take her home she must be exhausted and hopefully she'll stay asleep. Go in the bedroom and she was laying face down in the cot sobbing 😢 I was so upset they didn't call me as I work next door and they knew I'd been finding the childcare transition hard and I would have come to get her and just tried another day 😔
    There was also another day when we were still doing trials and I was going to leave her for the first time. It was bedlam in there that morning lots of upset babies needing attention at once and if i had left DD she may not have got attention so I stayed for an hour with her then took her home.
    Clearly I have major separation anxiety 😔
    But I definitely don't think what you did is OTT. I hope the next experience is much better.
    This makes me want to cry....

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    Omfg! I would have grabbed my child and marched straight into the Directors office. The director needs to know about this. Who gives a shiz if people were sick and casuals were on - kids still need to be looked after properly and treated with respect.

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    I don't think you were OTT. I would address it with the regular carers the next time she's in. 15 minutes is a long time for your DD, and her anxiety would've been heightened by not knowing any one in the room.

    I think you did the right thing, and gave your daughter the message that you are there to protect her.

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    Not OTT

    I would expect the carer stop make sure that every kids are engaged in the activities or fine reading/playing on their own.

    At my centre I'm sure a carer would have been right by your DD side. A carer always welcome the kids in anyway. So when you leave kids are always with an adult.

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    I don't think that is OTT, my DD is also 3 and not long started daycare. She still gets upset and one of the ladies always comes and asks her for a cuddle or distracts her BEFORE I leave. I can't imagine they would ever leave her distressed like that after I left

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