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    We've had both sets of parents look after DD (9w) when they have come to visit. So we've done this twice. Because dd is a bit of a grump in the evening, we have gone for lunch instead.
    Have also had offers for neighbours/friends with young kids and will take them up on their offers, although for these we will likely just have a quick dinner out. The days of long degustation and matched wines at over!

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    We did not go out for at least a year with DS. We took him if we went somewhere. We just had together time at home. Mostly movie nights.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    We did not go out for at least a year with DS. We took him if we went somewhere. We just had together time at home. Mostly movie nights.
    I will add DS was high maintenance. Hated sleep, food other than BM and only wanted mum/dad. So we kinda had to do that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mmumm View Post
    I want to live in your house.
    What is this 5-7pm chill time you talk about - that's feral time in my house ������
    Ummm yeah ..... here too Maybe 6-7 for her DH? lol

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    Things that have worked for us with no closeby family -
    Take baby with us... enjoy before the mutate into a toddler!
    Organised at home date nights. Tell DH that next Sat is date night, you're buying salmon, cooking a nice dinner while he does bed routine etc. Remind him 2 days before so he knows you are serious and that it is a locked in event same as if you had booked a restaurant.
    Do you know any grandparents? Eg. Is there a mature person at your DH's work, or a friend's parents. We ended up with a few "surrogate grandparents" when we lived interstate who just loved to babysit. They were used to little kids as they would sit their own grandies regularly and were semi retired so had time on their hands.

    Whenever someone trusted came to stay (my mum, his parents etc) go on as many dates as possible!!!

    Use daycare and have a lunch date followed by massages, or whatever else appeals. Try to do the sorts of things that areca PITA with bub in tow.

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    When we moved to Melb for 12 mths when ds1 was 3 mths old we didn't have any family support. About 4 times ( once for a wedding) we used an agency babysitter. They arrived at 530pm, ds1 was already down for the night and we went to a local restaurant.

    Now, we have special friday night every week. We look forward to it all week! Kids in bed, special dinner and we always share a bottle of champagne. Its soooo much better than going out. We call it ' champagne friday'. Its our special thing.

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    Same situation, no family in Australia. The closest family member is a 10 hrs flight away...

    We had our first babysitter when DS was 2 month old.
    She was experienced and we trusted her because she came recommended from fellow parents.

    I am not an anxious parent though. If Bub woke up and cried she would have tried a bottle then singing, rocking or whatever. If Bub had cried for too long she would have called us back in.

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    Also no family nearby for us and the last time dh & I were 'alone' was in the hospital the morning of my cs with ds. Dd is 4 & since her birth, we have been out on our own twice.

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    Haven't read any replies. Sorry for any repetitiveness

    DS had his first sleep over and Nan and Pa's at 18 months old and was babysat once by Nan and Pa once he was asleep at 12 months old.
    This is just how we did it.
    We're now planning a night away for our wedding anniversary.
    Maybe if you don't have anyone you're close enough with to look after Bub, can you create a special night at home? Order in, but you're favourite wine, watch a movie.
    I know it's not the same but it may be something

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