I am new here so I'm sorry if this is not the appropriate place to post this query.
I have an 11 month old son and his father and I split before he was born.
Unfortunately we have a very strained co-parenting relationship and have had from the start.
Very quick backstory: He has a lot of pent-up resentment toward me for locking him into child support and for living so far away from him, and I have a lot of resistance in handing my son to him for visitations, although I do so as cheerfully as possible for my son's sake.
I have suspected strongly for quite some time that he has some sort of ASD, and a child psychologist I
have seen has suggested that he possibly also has narcissism. I'm dealing with a really difficult guy unfortunately.
He is doing everything he can to make it look like I'm violating our parenting plan (I'm not) and generally has it in for me. My poor son. I'm trying to be the best buffer for him that I can be, but it's tough and scary doing it alone.
Today I got my son back from a visitation and I can smell redbull on his clothes, which is what his father drinks all day long. I am sickened that he would be giving this to my son who is not even one, even if it was just a tiny sip.
The thing is he will deny it when I ask him about it next time I see him. And I can't really prove it, its just that the clothing stinks to high heaven of redbull. What can I do? I feel so powerless that during his time with my son he can essentially parent however he likes and there's nothing I can do.
It sucks that as mothers, we are given instincts that we are not allowed to use to protect our children from harm. What a **** system. End rant.
Does anyone have advice? Or can give me any hope? Is it something I should document with child services or is that OTT?