I don't get emotional talking about IVF at all. I can run through the process, my poor response, the ultrasounds, the EPU's - everything - without a hint of emotion.
The only thing I can't do is talk about my miscarriage. I can type it, yes. But say it out loud? Not a chance. Even with DH, if I even contemplate saying anything about it, I break down. It can be something as simple as "Last October when we miscarried..." and I'm gone. I just dissolve into tears. The pain is as raw today for me as it was then.
I just can't do it
Tinachris I'm a fairly 'unteary' kind of person but I remember a few times when it all seemed to be pent up ready to come out at a kind word or scene in a movie. Or during an argument with my partner. When I spoke to a counselor her kindness and questions would make me ball my eyes out . But I'd really recommend doing that in helping to voice those emotions. Just talking to someone impartial but who really understands the grief is a really great thing to do.
Charlie74 The clinics go through this all the time, it's water off a ducks back to them. Switching clinics for a new approach just makes sense and they know that. I really wouldn't worry. I switched clinics and told my FS I was getting two other opinions and both times the docs respected and even encouraged me to do it actually, saying it was a good idea.
bobgley yeah as soon as someone is nice to me and asks me about it I'm a mess ATM. If they were a right ***** I'd keep my **** together, lol! I can't even say how many cycles I've done and I'm having a sook.
I might have to do the free counselling they offer when I do another cycle, might be helpful. I just never really thought a counsellor would do anything much but nod and listen...similar to my DH lol
To the Powers That Be (aka: @BIB... )
I know there is nothing happening in that month, but I was wondering next time you're in the Roll Call could you please, pretty please, put November in? It is driving me absolutely bananas every time I look at it
Speaking of bananas, today's job (after I finish my breakfast and have my shower) is to make The Biggest Damn Banana Cake You Have Ever Seen and cover it with cream cheese frosting. That's exciting!
Then follows mounds and mounds of paperwork. Sigh.....
@winsor, I have something on my mind too, and I was wondering if I could ask you a personal question? If it's too much, please feel free to tell me where to get off...
Soooo.....I know you've said on here a couple of times that in your search for an egg donor you are not looking for any contact after the birth. My question is, if that's the case, have you considered doing a CT cycle? I was under the impression that costs would be similar for a CT vs local cycle (@Tahli?), and that way you could get cracking straight away?
You may have spoken about that before and I just can't remember it, so my apologies if that is indeed the case
so far we're ok with taking it slow & steady. maybe in a couple of months we might want to review this. it hasn't been that long since our loss. I think it takes some time & I'm only on my 2nd af (this week I think) since, so letting my body reset over time too (well 3 af if you count the mc as first)
hugs for you & Blossom too.
Last edited by winsor; 18-05-2016 at 10:19. Reason: clarifying
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