I've been told that my baby has a posterior tongue tie & upper lip tie.
Everything was going good at the beginning, but nearly 5 weeks in the feeding is not improving - I'm still having difficulty getting him to latch & there is some pain in my nipples. He's gaining weight & sleeping well, but I'm now suspecting that he's just feeding off my letdown. I have seen an IBCLC who suspects ties & the chiropractor also said 100% ties.
I'm totally devastated! Been crying my heart out every day since & my anxiety is through the roof. I couldn't feed my first born due to latch issues (possibly lip tied?) & now I'm going through this with my second. I'm dreading each feed
Im so torn about what to do!! I'm considering going & having a consultation with a dentist in Brisbane who lasers them. But the thought of him having to go through the procedure terrifies me. What if he doesn't improve & I regret my decision & forever hate myself for it!! Or the ties grow back? It's such a risk to take!
I'm tossing up whether to just put him onto bottles (assuming he will actually take one??) but then my heart will be broken as I so dearly wanted to breastfeed this baby. I love him so so very much & I love the feeling of him needing me.
Hubby is supportive but thinks I'm overreacting. He knows how badly I want this to work but he thinks I should wait & see if the feeding improves or gets worse first. All he sees is baby feeding, gaining weight & sleeping. He doesn't get my gut instinct or the pain in my nipples.
I really need some advice mummas! What would you do in this situation? HELP!!