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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    If you need 2 nights off from your kid to have a happy marriage then there are bigger problems at play. Poor kid is doomed.
    I'm inclined to agree VP. I find it odd. Once a month? Sure, but two nights a week?

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Leaving your kids in childcare or with grandparents while you work to give your kids the best life you can and yes keep some sanity in your own life is looking after THEIR needs, not MY needs. You know child lead parenting!?
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    Good point. Parents who want to teach their kids healthy sleep habits so everyone can get a good night sleep and be happy and healthy.... are considered selfish by many on BH because they are not practising child led parenting.

    Yet palm your kid off to the mil for 2 nights every week so you can have a shag-a-thon with hubby and you're mother of the year!

    It's interesting how we all judge differently... Yet the same

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clementine Grace View Post
    90% of families in my circle who both work fulltime with one or two young children bring in 200k+ a year. Or more. There aren't many of them, most have one parent working 2-3 days a week max.
    That's just in my circle obviously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    One is to (theoretically) improve the lifestyle your kids have. The other is to have a shag with your partner while sipping a martini, with the kids being an afterthought.
    Lots of people work because they enjoy adult company and the challenges and fulfilment that work brings, not because they need the money. Ahh anyway, someone please start a new thread as I need something else to discuss! Or suggest something good to watch on TV.

    Meanwhile I'm packing DD's lunch as I'm palming her off to my dad tomorrow so I can selfishly do a cooking class 😜

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyno1onboard View Post
    Lots of people work because they enjoy adult company and the challenges and fulfilment that work brings, not because they need the money. Ahh anyway, someone please start a new thread as I need something else to discuss! Or suggest something good to watch on TV.

    Meanwhile I'm packing DD's lunch as I'm palming her off to my dad tomorrow so I can selfishly do a cooking class 😜
    Exactly people work for all reasons.

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    I think having alone time as a couple on a regular basis is very very important. And seeing as this Rachel person (who even is she anyway??) doesn't see her husband much through the week, I think it's even more crucial that they organise alone time. But tbh two nights a week is a bit much IMO, I think it does seem a bit selfish. One night a week IMO is ok. But then I also love spending quality time with my kids, as our weeks are so busy, so a free weekend night with my kids is something that I really cherish! Going out to dinner, or a movie, or a night walk at the beach... all the kinds of things that we don't get to do through the week. I wouldn't be giving that up too easily!


    As for the OP- yep I judge, but I don't go and rant and rave to the person in question. That is just rude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clementine Grace View Post
    90% of families in my circle who both work fulltime with one or two young children bring in 200k+ a year. Or more. There aren't many of them, most have one parent working 2-3 days a week max.
    In some areas $200,000 will *just* allow you to have a middle class lifestyle. Working for a few lifestyle perks, not chandeliers and yearly trips to Europe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    In some areas $200,000 will *just* allow you to have a middle class lifestyle. Working for a few lifestyle perks, not chandeliers and yearly trips to Europe.
    Well aware of that, I live in a capital city not saying it's rich or wealthy. Just saying it's not a necessity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    In some areas $200,000 will *just* allow you to have a middle class lifestyle. Working for a few lifestyle perks, not chandeliers and yearly trips to Europe.
    Plus I don't care what kind of lifestyle you can maintain on 200k or 100k.
    My point was that yes plenty off people need to work fulltime but everyone defines "need" differently. I'm not going to judge what another family wants to do.

    I'd never give my kid or kids to the grandparents every weekend for 2 days. I'd never consider it, but if someone else does, good luck to them. If they want to give up that time, it's their choice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clementine Grace View Post
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    I'd never give my kid or kids to the grandparents every weekend for 2 days. I'd never consider it, but if someone else does, good luck to them. If they want to give up that time, it's their choice.
    Yes you're right it's their choice however if they announce said choice in the media then they are choosing to open up their choices to the court of public opinion.

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