Which raises some interesting aspects for the judgement thread though:
1) Should I/others refrain from judging a current situation/post based on past situation/post history? Or is there a place in some cases for bringing the past into the judgement equation (eg child abuse cases)
2) can someone judge without meaning to? Or does lack of overt intention to judge mean there was no judging?
3) Does consistent and overt messaging that focuses on ones own actions (stating ones own method is superior) rather than the actions of others (I don't like your method) count as judging by association?
4) are perceptions (rather than intent alone) a valid part of the judgement equation? If someone feels they are being judged due to rushed/careless wording of another, does that mean they are being judged as opposed to being sensitive or just plain wrong?
That's enough thought provoking tid-bits from myself for today!!! Coffee time!
Last edited by VicPark; 13-05-2016 at 07:17.
I still think it's a different kettle of fish to take 2 x nights off from your kids per week to sip martini's with your husband (yes assumption there) to taking 2 x nights off from your kids for whatever reason that allows you to pull income into your household (whether that be to maintain an average lifestyle or one that allows for an overseas holiday each year is irrelevant to me).
Look, like I said, there is no way I would do it. I would pine for my kids and they would for us too, especially DS2. But the child seems happy, loved and looked after. She has lots of time with her parents during the week and has a wonderful relationship with her grandparents. I certainly wasn't criticising those that work and use care; be that bc they have to work to live... or live to work. But I think it's a fair comparison.
I judge. But then i always remind myself that the person is maybe going through something i know nothing about . Not everything is always as it seems.
I agree with RAH...in the case of Rachel Finch...dad has the child until 3pm, mum has the child until bed time, and they have Sunday together. So what if they have two nights and a day to spend as a couple each week. It sounds like they don't see each other during the week at all. They can have Sunday as family time.
I think it's easy to judge this situation when you are a mon-fri 9-5 worker. Kids in bed at 7, couple time every night by 8pm. I work most weekends...so my days off with my kids are often when they're at school. DH and I get about two hours of quality time together a week. I say good on you Rachel Finch...sounds like you've got the work/relationship/kid balance sorted out far better than what I do.
As for judging in general. I work with families for a living...it's my job not to judge, and that obviously spills over in to my non work life.
Last edited by Full House; 13-05-2016 at 10:48.
How will she feel when she's older and finds out her parents did that?
Also how do you know she has lots of time with her parents. They both work during the week do they not?
There are so many things we don't know.
I just worry about their child when she grows up. I'd feel pretty **** if my parents left me with my grandparents for 2 nights a week every single week. It's a recipe for emotional issues when she's older IMO.
Being devils advocate Here.
But how do you know a child isn't happy being in daycare?
Pregnant for the first-time?
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