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    Quote Originally Posted by Catzilla View Post
    Maybe a better question might be, "When does it become okay to voice your judgement to the person concerned"?
    When the kids health (physical/mental) and/or safety are at risk.

    Yes - there's still grey around that line.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Are you really comparing parents putting their kids in childcare so they can EARN A LIVING with someone who sends their kid elsewhere so they can ?relax?with the hubby? ....

    I apologise if I have Mis-interpreted your post however it reads to me like you're having a judgey dig at parents who (unlike you) work outside the home and whose kids sleep 7am-7pm. Which would be ironic given the purpose of this thread. Apologies again if I have misinterpreted - if I have worst case scenario this presents an opportunity for you to clarify so those working mummies out there reading along don't feel do bad.
    These parents leave their child with her grandmother for 1.5 days a week. Many parents leave their kids in daycare for 5 days a week so they can work. Many parents leave their kids in daycare 1-2 days a week when one parent doesn't work. I really don't understand what the big deal is. Regardless of what the parents are doing during the time their children are not with them, the outcome is the same for the children.

    I interpreted Rose's post to mean she didn't see a problem with either scenario.

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    Society has deemed that at a certain point judging of other parents is not only ok, it is necessary. Child protection agencies exist under the idea that it's ok to judge parents who are doing a **** job and putting heir kids at risk.

    I think the issues are more when/where/how/at what point it is ok to judge. And people will have different opinions on these points based on their life experiences and personality. I personally prefer upfront honest judgement over covert have-a-dig-but-you-can't-prove-I'm-having-a-dig style judgement. That's just my preference though.

    The fact of judging in itself has already been legitimatised in legislation and Government policy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Are you really comparing parents putting their kids in childcare so they can EARN A LIVING with someone who sends their kid elsewhere so they can ?relax?with the hubby? ....

    I apologise if I have Mis-interpreted your post however it reads to me like you're having a judgey dig at parents who (unlike you) work outside the home and whose kids sleep 7am-7pm. Which would be ironic given the purpose of this thread. Apologies again if I have misinterpreted - if I have worst case scenario this presents an opportunity for you to clarify so those working mummies out there reading along don't feel do bad.
    But not every woman works just to pay the interest on the mortgage or pay an overdue gas bill though. PLenty (and they are on this forum) find being at home FT bat sh*t boring (as a SAHM that doesn't insult me in the slightest). They work for social interaction. For a trip to Africa every year instead of the Gold Coast. Because she enjoys adult interaction.

    So essentially it's a choice for these women, who then put their kids in CC. Now I have zero judgment of that. I love being a SAHM but I get some women would rather blow their brains out. How is that different?

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyno1onboard View Post
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    I interpreted Rose's post to mean she didn't see a problem with either scenario.
    Maybe I Mis-interpreted because I had previously seen Rose criticise those parents that aim for 7-7 sleepers. Maybe I put 1+1 together and got 2.25 instead of 2?

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    As to whether I judge.... I try not to, but of course I do sometimes, I'm human.

    I tend to judge when people put their child's physical and/or emotional health at risk for selfish reasons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Maybe I Mis-interpreted because I had previously seen Rose criticise those parents that aim for 7-7 sleepers. Maybe I put 1+1 together and got 2.25 instead of 2?
    Ahh let's have one thread with no sleeping debates!!! 😜

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Maybe I Mis-interpreted because I had previously seen Rose criticise those parents that aim for 7-7 sleepers. Maybe I put 1+1 together and got 2.25 instead of 2?
    she's probably just envious 😂

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    But not every woman works just to pay the interest on the mortgage or pay an overdue gas bill though. PLenty (and they are on this forum) find being at home FT bat sh*t boring (as a SAHM that doesn't insult me in the slightest). They work for social interaction. For a trip to Africa every year instead of the Gold Coast. Because she enjoys adult interaction.

    So essentially it's a choice for these women, who then put their kids in CC. Now I have zero judgment of that. I love being a SAHM but I get some women would rather blow their brains out. How is that different?
    This. A few families I know who both work fulltime, do it to maintain their lifestyle. They earn plenty of money and don't have to do it, it's a choice. Some of them only see their baby or kid an hour or two each week night, but works for them. Good on them, it's their family they know what's best. They're happy.

    That's the thing about judgement, you don't really know anyone else's situation. What works for someone else might not work for you, that's ok though, it doesn't have to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyno1onboard View Post
    These parents leave their child with her grandmother for 1.5 days a week. Many parents leave their kids in daycare for 5 days a week so they can work. Many parents leave their kids in daycare 1-2 days a week when one parent doesn't work. I really don't understand what the big deal is. Regardless of what the parents are doing during the time their children are not with them, the outcome is the same for the children.

    I interpreted Rose's post to mean she didn't see a problem with either scenario.
    I don't see a problem with either scenario. Kids safe. No issue.


 
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