@VicPark I just wanted to throw in my thoughts about post 4 (I think I'm remembering the one you're referencing correctly?) because it relates to the OP.
That's an example of how reading different viewpoints can be enlightening to me. More specifically your interpretation of it. It's not how I would have interpreted it and is an example of how even our own opinions/judgements can touch nerves in different people depending on our contexts, history etc etc. regardless of intent.
Which is why I think the right to opinions/judgements needs to be balanced against our responsibility to consider others/choose our words and timing carefully. Some people value that balance more than others. We all get passionate and heated and no one is perfect, for sure, but to me personally, it's an important factor.
Last edited by Moxy; 16-05-2016 at 17:14.
Okay all, as you can imagine we're getting reports, we have respectfully stayed out of the thread to honour the sentiment that has been expressed of late, in that we Mods allow robust discussion, self-moderation and not close down threads.
However, I think a reminder is needed in regards to what is considered "not in the spirit of Bubhub'. If you post with this in mind, then all is well, if you don't, then you need to have some self-moderation and consider the impact your words have. There are real people reading these words and what you may think is a bit of sport, freedom of speech or whatever banner you wish to put your words under, always be mindful that what you say can and does have an effect, both good and bad. Thanks all.
Please post in the Spirit of Bubhub
That means not:
- making rude, insulting or attacking comments to or about other members either in posts or private messages – What constitutes insulting/offensive comments
- posting comments considered offensive by the community at large
- revealing personal information about another member (past or present) that they wouldn’t want generally known (malicious gossip)
- being deceitful or creating fake personas purely to mislead people
- posting contentious or deliberately argumentative posts purely for your own entertainment (known as ‘flaming’ or ‘trolling’)
I'd love to have a debate with you that actually ended, but I find it impossible because you are so h3ll bent on being right that you refuse to see where someone else is coming from time and time again. I found it tiring and it gets to the point where it feels like you're talking to a brick wall and I give up. I have tried to politely point this out to you in the past, but it just falls on deaf ears. I'll be honest, I find a lot of what you say seems to come from a place of naivety and intolerance. I could be wrong, because I don't know you, but it's how your posts read to me. It has nothing to do with a clique though. I don't know or associate with anyone here outside of threads...and don't participate in chit chat threads. Your name is the most recognisable to me.
I wasn't specifically referring to you with regards to A-Squared. It's the result of a collective effort that we could very well have lost a good hubber.
RIP freedom of speech on the hub xxx (in a thread about judging nonetheless ! )
You just never budge. On any topic. Ever. I accept this about you and mainly I don't argue the point anymore because I know for whatever reason you won't change your view.
It reminds me of an old dr Phil saying "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?"
You know I agree with you on almost every topic about women and working and why they should, and I'm not a staunch anti sleep trainer so am very middle ground.
But sometimes it's like having someone tell me over and over again that the world is flat.
There are others on here who also never change their views on topics and I tend not to engage too much as it's pointless too.
@A-Squared is a great member of this forum and even though you called it a witch hunt everyone who engaged tried to make it clear they respected her as such and were trying to understand why she felt the way she felt.
Anyway I'm trying to explain why it may seem to you that hubber get frustrated. I've been sparring wth you on topics for long enough to know that in 24 hours I'll probably agree with you on something else.
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