I was going to like your post as you were responding to questions I asked and making some really good points. Got halfway through and you lost me. Wish you could give half likes on BH. Missed opportunity.- relaxing watching DVDs
- going to a party/bar/club then having wild sex both nights?
No. Might be envious of wild sex tho.
- smoking pot with a friend or hubby all weekend?
Yes. It's illegal.
- doing the house cleaning and chores?
- working to establish a home business
- working outside the home
Is there any variation in your assessment or is it the same regardless of the activity?
Illegal - then I'd judge harshly. Otherwise it's not my problem.
Do you think there would be any point at which you would think the cost of missing 2 nights with your child wouldn't be worth the benefit experienced?
I don't understand your fascination with "missing bedtimes". I try to miss bedtimes as much as possible. Dh does them here if available. I do enough kid wrangling all week so I hid in the lounge eating dessert as Dh puts the 3 to bed.
You do realise that finch is with her kid 5/7 nights a week????? Doing it solo cos her hubby works evenings and nights? I spent almost 90% of the last two years doing the evening routine solo. I know that sometimes you just get fed up with groundhog day everything is ALL the time. I understand the fatigue and I have easy happy children. I understand the strain of having a partner who works opp hours and not seeing them much let alone quality time. I understand the mental fatigue you have when you don't have 'alone' or solo time.
You often say you 'need' your sleep and your babies are happier with their SOS routine. That what makes you happy and your family work?
But I don't need much sleep but I need down time. I need social time outside my home. I need friends and family and my social life to be happy inside. Otherwise my spirit will wither away.
Everyone has different needs. Why begrudge her satisfying her needs? She hasn't abandoned her child in an unsafe environment. She isn't doing anything illegal. She works in the entertainment industry where Fri/sat nights she probably has to attend events etc. It's probably easier to have a set weekly routine than chop/change depending on her schedule.
Why all this angst for a woman that's found a way to keep her family happy and her mind sane?