It's hard not to judge because we've all got our own version of what a parent should be. Its probably tinged with a bit of envy (I'm in the once a month would be lovely camp!)
My very wealthy friend works full time, has a full time nanny and still eats out and socialises 4-5 times a week. I find that full on but I don't really care it's what she enjoys.
My MIL can't understand how I am going on a 3 day girls weekend leaving my 2yo (first one ever - how dare I?) so matter what your never going to make everyone approve of you.