good luck to them
if it works for them, and they are happy - go for it.
Slightly off-topic but I love that 90-95% of comments on this thread are along the lines of "if it works for them, who am I to judge". It's so refreshing after reading the comments on another parenting site (which seems to be blocked from being mentioned here 😜) and wherever else I read this article. I commented on the "what do you love about bubhub" thread recently and said BH has made me way less judgey as I don't know anyone else's circumstances. I'm not sure if everyone else on here was like that when they joined, but this thread is evidence of just how great this community is at supporting other mums and families choices.
To be honest I'm struggling to understand why they would want to do it. Like a few previous posters I think every second weekend but that is based on the assumption that the parents aren't getting much time with her during the week.
The only thing that surprises me is that she would give away so much detail on her own family situation, as she's clearly been slammed for it.
Maybe though, it will make some couples think again about having some couple time together, which so easily gets lost when you have kids. Every weekend wouldn't work for a lot of people, def not me, but the odd weekend night here and there if you had the family support could probably do wonders for a relationship where you don't get much time alone together.
As for alone time, I have really struggled to take "me" time since having kids. Largely though because we have no family support its not really been available. If I pay for anyone to have the kids it's so I can work.
It's actually quite nice now the kids are getting older to have time for myself without feeling immense guilt.
As for Rachael, I think back to the time when I was a mum of 1 and DD1 was only 2. I loved loved loved spending all weekend with her and DH. It was like we were in a little bubble just the 3 of us. You never have that time again once you have more kids, and my eldest was such a delight at that age. So I guess I am projecting my own life onto hers which is what we all do to some degree.
I wonder if this couple will change their tune as their child gets older? I find that I enjoy the company of my kids more and more as they get older. It makes me want to spend more time with them...not less. Plus I know that once they reach a certain age they'll choose their friends over family so I want to make the most of it while they're young.
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