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    Quote Originally Posted by Monkey'sMummy View Post
    I'm with you OP. It drives me nuts. A "friend" on Facebook recently got (as in paid a professional photographer) "family portraits" done of her & her dogs. I've never seen something so ridiculous in all my life....!

    Animals are not children!! I understand people live their pets. But they're still pets!

    Why is it ridiculous? Some people are bigger animal lovers than others. To many people their pets are just as much a part of the family as anyone else. Just because you don't feel that way doesn't make them 'ridiculous'.

    I know many people who were told they would not love their pets as much as their children, yet when they had children, they still did. It may be a slightly different type of love, but so what? Does someone not love their parents because it's not 'the same' as the love they feel for their child?

    For some people their pets are their whole world and I can't see how that can drive anyone else crazy. Having children does not give you the monopoly over love. Did it occur to you that some people have been unable to have children and have found a maternal love for their pet instead?

    I know lots of people who have family portraits with their animals, I think it's lovely.

    OP I know you said this thread was meant to be lighthearted but unfortunately I just find this sort of attitude from people horribly elitist and condescending.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BettyW View Post
    When you don't have kids you think it must be about the same. When you do have them you realise how drastically wrong you were. 😂
    This! I was terrible for this. Then I had twins! 😂. One of my young colleagues was telling me how prepared she was for babies because of her dogs, I just nodded because no one can tell you, you have to find out yourself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Monkey'sMummy View Post
    I'm with you OP. It drives me nuts. A "friend" on Facebook recently got (as in paid a professional photographer) "family portraits" done of her & her dogs. I've never seen something so ridiculous in all my life....!

    Animals are not children!! I understand people live their pets. But they're still pets!
    no theyre not, their money their choice.
    What i wrong with getting professional photos of loved animals? honestly

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    My dog was my absolute world before I has children. I couldn't imagine how I could possibly love a child more than my "little girl". I would of jumped in front of a bus for her. I wanted her to be part of our wedding. When people told me I wouldn't love the dog so much any more once babies came along I was determined to prove them wrong..... But they were right 😊

    It honestly doesn't bother me that people think of their pets as children. I was there once. It's good they have something special in their lives. They are so naive it's cute
    This was me with my pup until DS was born, lol.

    Unfortunately you can't "get it" until you have a child and feel how different it is.

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    Someone close to me desperately wanted children but it didn't happen for her. Her dog is her 'baby' - and she treats him and thinks of him as such. Some people who don't know her story probably think she is OTT about her dog but she would have done absolutely anything to be a mother. So no, doesn't drive me nuts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    This was me with my pup until DS was born, lol.

    Unfortunately you can't "get it" until you have a child and feel how different it is.
    Yes it is different but my love for my dogs hasn't diminished since having 4 kids.

    I used to be part of many IVF threads and a lot of childless (not by choice) people refer to their pets as fur babies. It's often tinged with sadness.

    I find it very harsh to call the things they do ridiculous 😐

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    Our dog is still referred to as our first son and I get the whole "fur baby" thing.

    But like the OP, it does drive me mad when things are said like "I know what it's like to have to look after kids because I have my two demanding little fur kids!"

    Um, no... you toddle off to work each day after chucking a bit of food/water down for them. If you're running late after work or want to catch up for drinks, you don't have to stress that every minute after 6pm will cost you $5 and if you get stuck and can't get someone there in by 1/4 past your "babies" are not going to be dropped off at the local police station. No, you don't really know what it is like.

    I don't mean any disrespect, a friend like this would LOVE to know what it is really like but possibly never will. But the comments still drive me mad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Yes it is different but my love for my dogs hasn't diminished since having 4 kids.

    I used to be part of many IVF threads and a lot of childless (not by choice) people refer to their pets as fur babies. It's often tinged with sadness.

    I find it very harsh to call the things they do ridiculous 😐
    Absolutely this. Kindness goes a long way.

    Especially as those same people have probably listened patiently to friends who do have children talking a lot about their kids.

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    I think we need to differentiate between comparing the love for their pets and children vs comparing how much hard work they are.

    Unless you have a very ill pet that needs constant care, looking after children is MUCH harder work than looking after a pet.

    I can see how if someone who has only ever had pets but not children saying pets are just as hard work or even more would drive a parent insane. It's like those childless people who look at a kid having a tantrum in a supermarket and thinking or saying "why doesn't that person just discipline their child, how spoilt is he/she!?" They have NO idea what it's really like to have kids, nor does the childless pet owner, so they really can't compare their pet to someone else's child.

    However the love for a pet I believe can be as much and as deep as the love for a child.

    They're both two different things!

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    Default Fur babies vs real babies

    While I agree with you @A-Squared some of the comments were not really about comparing kids and pets in the sense of what's harder work. It's all relative. I think my work is hard and then I spend time with a good friend who is a judge and think "no way her job is much harder".

    I'm just trying to shed light on why people might have professional photos taken of their pets. Or that it's not naive to love your pet ad intensely after you've had kids.

    Heck on a bad day I tell DH I'm leaving him with the kids but taking our dogs.

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