"Mum why do we have to share a room but all my friends have their own room? Can't you just get a bigger house?"... "no, I want to make you suffer sweety".
Or, "not at this point in time darling, you have to save up a lot of money for a big house".
Re. the $20 that I turned down for groceries that people keep bringing up... I didn't go and tell him to keep his stinking money because he's not helpful, nor did I sob to him that I can't afford to feed them and I need someone to give me money.
We were heading out to do groceries, he beamed happily to me that he would like to buy the groceries this week, as I buy them every other week and he wanted to buy them for this week. He told me "don't worry, I have HEAPS of money!". I complimented him and thanked him for being so kind and thoughtful and said don't worry, I can pay, and he can buy himself a new book or Lego or whatever he wanted. He reiterated don't worry mum, I have HEAPS of money. I asked him how much money is the "heaps" that he still had in his wallet and he said "I have a $20 NOTE, see! HEAPS!"
Which then led on to the conversation about how much does he think food costs, and as such, how much does he think one weeks food for 4 people would cost. He didn't want to help, he wanted to pay for the week's groceries with a 20 buck note. And he probably would have expected change.
If I continued to let him believe that he could go and buy a weeks groceries for $20, I would be failing in that parental lesson IMO. I want my kids to be able to budget and be realistic with money.