What a sweet kid you have. I would take him to a movie with it - do something special just the two of you.
Side note - I grew up with very little and was always aware that money was tight. Didn't hurt me and actually motivated me in my adult life. I always tell my older child we can't afford things. It's not true but my kids are growing up with so much and I want them to have a good work ethic/respect for money/understand the need to save for what you want etc etc
Thanks all very much for all the kind words and suggestions. He is indeed a beautiful boy, very thoughtful and loving. I like the suggestions of treating the family with something and letting them know it was from his generosity.
As for the comments about "keeping money issues away from him"- ha!! Very much spoken from a position of privilege!
just her chameleon (10-05-2016)
It's absolutely possible, it's in a child's best interest, for that child to be shielded from financial struggles of the parents. That's not to say you can't tell your kid you can't afford luxuries such as an overseas holiday to Bali this year. Of course you can say that (just don't dwell on it). It means you don't let on that you are having trouble paying the essentials (groceries/rent etc).
Last edited by VicPark; 09-05-2016 at 21:25.
in response to the OP's dilemma, I'd accept the gift but spend the money doing a special activity together. something you both enjoy, be it going out for icecream or hot chocolate together or some other treat.
Put it in a piggy bank for him or in his bank account. If he doesn't have an account take him down to the bank and open one with him. That way when he receives pocket money he can watch his bank balance go up. My 8 yr old appreciates us doing this (have been since he was born) for him. He collects cans as we are in SA and he gets 10c a can. He has managed to save quite a bit now from doing this.
Hmm, That's a really hard one. To be honest, I could never accept money from my children. (Unless it is pay for something they have broken etc). I would tell him how proud I am of him, and the fact that he offered me such an incredible thoughtful gift means that he more than deserves the money to buy himself something super special. Additionally you could buy him something you know he would love with the money or use it on a special date together. We discuss how much things cost to our children. We explain that we have to work hard and have to save for things that we want. We are certainly not a family of privilege, quite the contrary. But I don't want my kids to worry about money, not yet. Have an understanding absolutely, but not to feel that they have to do something to help if that makes sense. Not a dig at you, just what works for my family. You have raised a beautiful boy, that was a really sweet thoughtful gift.
Not saying the OP's situation is as dire as this, just offering a different perspective.
I don't think the OP needs to sheild her kids from some of the realities of financial pressure. I don't think the OP's son gave her the money because he felt burdened with adult financial pressures. It sounds like the OP is just raising a very thoughtful, generous and empathetic son. What a gorgeous kid!
Pregnant for the first-time?
Not sure where to start? We can help!