Many would say I do it wrong because its not what they do but I don't really care. I breastfeed my baby to sleep every time she wakes, I co-sleep and I would do all I can to stop her from crying if need be rock/pat ect. This baby, who is one now is my forth baby.
I haven't gone through what you have but had a few similar experiences! When DD was born, she was sleeping 8-9 hours every night until she was 3 months old.
Then she wasn't sleeping during the day and waking up about 2-3 times a night. That lasted about a month.
At 5 months old, she was waking up every 2 hours all night and only sleeping 20 min at a time during the day. Hubby and I were so exhausted for about 3 weeks.
Now, at 6.5 months she only wakes up once in the night, sometimes twice.
She goes down at around 6-630pm and normally doesn't wake up until around 3-330am and then she goes back down until about 630-700am.
I always breastfeed her back to sleep at night. We have tried to pay and shhh her back to sleep but she screams the house down and if she does manage to fall asleep, she will wake up 10 minutes later and I have to feed her.
I sometimes have to rock her to sleep, but rarely. She uses a dummy, she gets swaddled for day and night sleeps and always sleeps on her back, she never rolls in her sleep.
It took us a long time to get used to her routine and to notice her sleepy signs, but we think we have them sorted out now! For example, last night she slept from 7pm-5am, then back to sleep until 7am. She had a one hour nap at around 11am (normally she would go down earlier but we were out and she doesn't sleep much when we are out unless she is exhausted). Then she slept from 2-3pm, then half an hour later she fell asleep on me for an hour. We went out for dinner and she fell asleep on me at around 7pm. She was in bed and self settled by 8pm and is still asleep now.
You just have to do what works.
Try feeding her around the 3am mark and feel her skin and if she feels cold then that might be the issue as well. Sometimes when DD wakes up and I feel her skin and it's cold, I add another blanket and it always does the trick.
Good luck with everything and I hope you get some much needed sleep soon!
I was always anti co-sleeping but it got to a point in those earlier weeks (before we had reflux diagnosed etc) where that was the only place I could get him to sleep! I was desperate. I feel more comfortable with it now, but still don't want it long term.
Have plenty of apps but I am going to buy a purpose-made noise machine like a baby sound spa. There are portable ones for travel/pram too I think my DS needs it. I don't want to rely on my phone, sometimes I need it to use as a phone 😂.
DS2 is in LTD swaddles I have given up on wrapping, tried so many techniques including double wrapping but he still makes a mess of it he is super strong. He has also started fist sucking to self soothe so at least he can sort-of access his fists through the LTD. I am hoping he gets better at 'finding' his fists the next few weeks and maybe even thumb - that is the ultimate pacifier as he can't lose it!
Best of luck. 😊
My son colic is related to the gas. Painful stomach and thus the crying. He would grunt in the cot from early morning hours and then farted like crazy after. I used to put him on my chest to comfort him and the pressure on his stomach helped. He didn't grow out of the colic because we found out that he has lactose problem at 6months. We started investigating it at 4 months.
DS wouldn't sleep in his cot during the day. We sent him off to sleep school and didn't work. We let him nap in the bouncer for months and he would only do 30 mins. With a bit of help, he might sleep for another 30 mins. Sleep doesn't come easy for him. He grew out of the catnapping at around 5months and was happy to nap in his cot again. For some reasons, he is always ok to sleep in his cot at night except recently some nights he would only sleep with us (separation anxiety?). While his day sleep has improved, night sleep has gotten worse for us.
I reckon that babies with sleep problem early on will continue until they somehow grow out of it. It is tough. When we started accepting it, we felt less stress about it. That's based on the stories I heard from the other moms whose babies sleep very well from young age. It is very difficult. Ds is now at daycare and his nap is terrible. I wonder if we should have trained him sleep with some noise in the background. Anyway, hang in there, the catnap might grow out of it. As for night sleep, if he is having a lot of gas, find a good dr who is willing to help you than just telling you colic is only about crying and is normal. Btw, my son is on losec since week 5.
Still not sure what this one will do. He seems less interested in the dummy lately, the only time he sucks it consistently is when going to sleep at night (and still spits it out frequently, so I have to question how effective it is for him...).
@sunnygirl79 haha I have a fist chomper too. She just loves it and it's super cute but my god does she get stinker hands 😷
I hear you about reclaiming your phone. I actually have it on my iPad now. Let me know if you find a great sound machine, it might be handy to put in the pram to encourage bald in there.
Re gas, are u breastfeeding? If u r, eliminating dairy from your diet and see if it helps. I gave up breastfeeding very early on because I had so many things to deal with. It turned out that he had tongue tied (only found out at 4 months of age when we started investigating the gas issue). It explained so much about my trouble with breastfeeding.
Your DD sounded like mine. My DS was a hard burper too. Infacol helped most of the time. Get a lot Ofhelp if u can. As he grew older, less feed overnight, better for him because he seemed acting up after a night feed. If u r formula feeding, try aptamil allerpro. It makes reflux worse so adding thickener. If that doesn't work, try lactose free. I know a lot of Drs think lactose problem is rare. That's why it isn't recommended from the start. My son is growing well so they dismiss lactose issue. We ignored the advices and gave it a go when allerpro didn't work for him. Lactose Free turned out to be the magic pill for his gas issue. As soon as we put him back to normal formula, the gas problem came back again. By the time we went through 5 specialists since he was 3 months, he was 6 months old. The first paed is all about PURPLE crying and I wish we didn't take no for an answer and waited until 3 months of age. The magic age that they say colic will cure itself. He is also the paed who didn't diagnose his tongue tie at the hospital.
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