Hi all. To make a long story short my husband suffered a really bad back injury a couple of years ago. He has worked full time during this period and has gotten through it using pain killers. My husband has done not a lot to seek medical help during this period so i took over and he has now been told that he needs surgery on his back.
Our baby boy is only 4 months old and i was not due to go back until he turns 13 months. My husband and i had a pretty bad argument (unrelated to this issue) and he said that he had discussed this with his mum and they feel that i should go back to work and he leave work. When i pointed out that he can't hold our child and look after him for long periods due to his injury he said that his mum said that she would look after our son while i go to work.
My husband has threatened to leave me if i don't agree. I am just devistated and dont know what to do. The thought of having my son raised by his mum rather than me is just so upsetting. I had never been so happy as when i left work and was able to raise our son. My mother in law took 13 years off to raise her three kids and i just dobt understand how she could possibly take this from me.
I will have to go to a job where i was bullied and overworked. I will need to look after our child at night (still doesnt sleep through) on weekends and etc.
I am just so depressed and i haven't even gobe back to work.
My husband won't talk to me about this claiming that if i don't go back to work im selfish and he will leave me
I don't know what to do. He has managed for the past 2 years and would have continued on if it wasnt for his mother interfering. Im just so furious and depressed
My hubby has always been one to say that it should be the mum raisingthe child and that the bond between mother and child is the most important.
I have szupptmy hubby through a lot over the 10 years ae have been together
I cant deal with not raising my son and i can't deal with losing my husband
What.should I do?