dd has been lying and I am not sure how to deal with this.
Today we bought a birthday present for her friend at school who is having a party. Bought some clothes and a diary thing.
Dd wanted to wrap the present.
For some reason she said she wanted to wrap it in her room. I didn't really think about it and left her to it.
Anyway, I just happened to throw something in her bin and noticed the plastic cover on the diary set so I asked her about it and she lies and says that it's from something else.
I question her some more then she tells me that she took the items out of the packaging so it would be easier to wrap. I tell her she shouldn't do that because the person receiving the gift may think that the gift has already been used. So I tell her not to do that next time and she says ok.
I thought that was the end of it but then I get suspicious because I helped her tie the ribbon on the gift and thought it felt a bit too soft. So I go and press on the present and its really obvious there's only clothes there. I go back to dd and ask her whether she has taken the diary and tell her I will open the wrapping to check but she keeps telling me not to because she spent so much time wrapping it etc etc but just when I am about to open it she lies again and says she forgot to wrap the diary. So I say to her to stop lying and go and get it or she won't be allowed to go to the party.
She pretends she doesn't know where she "forgot" it looks around then gets it out of her school bag.
I tell her that now I need to buy her friend another unopened one and I am going to give away the one she opened to her cousin.
I tell dd that what she has done is really bad and is the same as stealing because that gift was for her friend. And I tell her how would she like it if someone did that to her.
I am now thinking that I didn't punish her enough. I just can't believe she would have lied to me so many times.
I have just spoken to dh about this and he thinks it's normal that he did that too at her age.
Btw dd is 6.5yo.
Do you think this is a phase? Wwyd?