I always take my lead from the expectant mum - always show that I'm happy for them, & only acknowlwdge feelings for gender disappointment IF she expresses that first. That being said - I dont really get why people ask for friends to guess the gender, thus welcoming comments on the topic,then get annoyed about the comments or upset if most people guess the same gender? I have 3 kids of the same sex, & I couldnt br happier. No disappointment here. Some people made comment with the 3rd about 'oh, hoping for a boy *sad face', what a shame,oh well, etc,but I just laughed it off & said 'not at all, I'm thrilled with a 3rd girl'. I find if I show people I'm fine with it, they tend to follow suit.