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    I didn't. I was more than happy to never ever have kids. Nothing about it appealed to me. Then I met DH and he wanted kids. I agreed, but always knew it was to make him happy because I knew how much he wanted a family. If he had for one minute turned around and said he didn't want to have any, I would have agreed in a flash! Even while we were trying for years, I was angry at my body for not being able to conceive - more of a "why can't my body do something it's meant to do!" competition with myself than a real desire to get the actual baby at the end. Even during our first IVF attempt....I still would have dropped it all like a hot potato if DH had decided we wouldn't go through with it.

    But then there was an exact point where I decided I absolutely wanted a baby and wanted to be a mum. The first time I felt 100% committed - it was the very moment I watched our little embryo transfer into me on the ultrasound on our second IVF attempt. Now I'm just over 6 weeks pregnant and praying like crazy every day that we get to take this baby home.

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    I always wanted to be a mother and it was always something I knew I would do. I cant remember a time where I didnt have a list of of potential names for my future children and I wanted 6 so I could use them all (reality set in and we only have 2, still have a list of names though).

    DH was always on board with having kids, even though he wanted less than 6, and wanted to have children youngish, like I did.

    Eta - i also was blessed with a really happy childhood and great parents, I couldnt wait to have a family of my own.
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    Default Why did you want to become a mother/parent

    I wanted to shower a little person with love. I've always been a nurturer and having my DD has been the best outlet for that. I simply love loving her.

    Other people's kids I can take or leave lol.

    It's also become apparent that she's helping me to break the chain. I came from a single parent family with a very poor attachment to mother and a lack of security. By making my DD feel secure and safe I seem to be mending the past. She's my angel and IVF miracle.
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    Great answers, it's crazy how different most of them are and how varied everyone's personalities are.

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    I never didn't want children...I always knew I wanted to be a mother, a SAHM one at that. I was fortunate and met my DH very young and we worked, traveled, bought a house and then got married at 24. After marriage I stopped taking contraception and, even though "not trying " fell pregnant on the honeymoon. Went on to have 2 babies, then a 5yr gap and a 3rd bub. Sadly (after 20yrs together ) my marriage fell apart and I'm now a single mum, but super grateful to have my kids, and to gave had them fairly young. We would have had a 4th bub, if we'd stayed together, I'm sure.

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    I always wanted to be a mum. Was dead set on having a girl and name her Carrigan or Blodwyn. Then have 3 more.

    Life had other plans.

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    I kinda just always knew I would.

    I met my DH when I was 19 and I was so in love with him so fast that I knew I wanted his babies, but at the time kids kind of grossed me out haha!! Then mid-twenties that biological urge kicked in, but other factors meant we didn't start trying til 2014 when we fell pregnant first cycle. Now I have my amazing nine month old.

    I was always fascinated by pregnancy and I adored being pregnant. So glad I got to have that experience and hope I get to do it again.

    Another reason for me was I wanted to love someone really well. Although my parents did the best they could I never felt truly treasured by them. I guess it's a selfish way of making up for that.. by loving and delighting in someone else and helping build them into the happiest version of themselves.


 

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