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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    it's not so much bub #2 I'm worried about, it's more just am I cutting short this precious one on one time with ds1. like should I enjoy this special time more? I'm trying to savour every moment as you read so many articles where mums lament how they miss it just being them and bub #1.

    I guess it's natural to feel that though whenever your second bub arrives, be it 12 months or 3 years down the track.
    I feel like that and I'm about to have my second and my DS is 3 it feels like it's been just the two of us for so long, I'm a bit sad that's coming to an end. I'm sure it doesn't matter how big or small the gap, you'll still feel that.

    It was what I wanted though, I wanted those early years to just focus on one child and I really needed it as my DS is very full on and needed all my attention.

    You're probably still in post baby haze too, as soon as I had my baby I wanted another one. Maybe wait till your bub approaches 1 and give your body time to get back on its feet and see how you feel.

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    I loved my one on one time so much we waited 4 yrs before trying for number 2! Then had numbers 2 and 3 back to back. But it really is such a special time and in some ways I really miss it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    Not at all. Your eldest is the only one of your kids who will ever have you FT. All subsequent children have to share parental time.

    Why not wait till your ds is 1 then start trying?
    Exactly this. I never felt guilty. The desire to give my baby a sibling close in age was far stronger than the desire to have heaps of time alone with my first. I'm the youngest child in my family...maybe this is why I didn't care about that too much 😂

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    Hmm do I fell guilty? Nope I don't know any different I would probably feel guilty if I had the bigger age gap like I initially wanted. Sure more one on one time for your first but the adjustment for them would be much harder. Small age gaps mean number 1 is still young enough to not be jealous. Can't help with the getting period back as I got mine back both times 6 weeks pp even when I was feeding 2!

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