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    With regards to getting your period back, all it took was my DD sleeping through the night so not being fed for 12+ hours a few nights and it came back. She was 8 months old then and I fed her til 13 mths so possible to fall pregnant and still feed. She went back to regularly night waking after I got my period back so I felt quite ripped off 😂

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    for those with a small age gap between first and second bub...did you feel guilty towards your eldest at all? Iike for not spending more time just enjoying them?

    I think this potentially holds me back. I want to savour every second with ds1, once another is here we will never get that time back where it's just us 3. I should enjoy being able to spend time with ds without my attention being diverted with another child. I feel almost bad by being excited at the prospect of another bub, like maybe ds one isn't enough or I'm being ungrateful or greedy.
    Not at all. Your eldest is the only one of your kids who will ever have you FT. All subsequent children have to share parental time.

    Why not wait till your ds is 1 then start trying?

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    I had a just over 2 year gap between my kids. Time wasn't on my side and I thought well 2 years is supposed to be the perfect gap.

    I wish I had actually thought about what having two kids so close together actually involved - taming and toilet training a toddler when you have a newborn. If I knew then what I knew now I probably would have had hubby shoot for a 3 year gap. Probably would have enjoyed my year of mat leave much more.
    My ds1 was quite a challenging toddler though - everyone's circumstances will be different. I'm sure I will appreciate the smallish gap in a year or so - just not now.

    Maybe wait until your child is closer to 1 so you can sort of have an idea what they will be like?

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    I've had a 3 and a half year gap, 23 months and 2 and a half year gap.

    Everything comes down to the nature of your kids and the baby you get. It's so hard to predict how you'll cope.

    I'd focus on the stuff you can control (finances, job etc) and not the stuff you can't.

    To be honest at your age I'd get cracking. But yes wait until your bub is closer to 1.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    for those with a small age gap between first and second bub...did you feel guilty towards your eldest at all? Iike for not spending more time just enjoying them?

    I think this potentially holds me back. I want to savour every second with ds1, once another is here we will never get that time back where it's just us 3. I should enjoy being able to spend time with ds without my attention being diverted with another child. I feel almost bad by being excited at the prospect of another bub, like maybe ds one isn't enough or I'm being ungrateful or greedy.
    Same! I also have this irrational fear that I won't love another child as much as him, even though this is very common.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    for those with a small age gap between first and second bub...did you feel guilty towards your eldest at all? Iike for not spending more time just enjoying them?

    I think this potentially holds me back. I want to savour every second with ds1, once another is here we will never get that time back where it's just us 3. I should enjoy being able to spend time with ds without my attention being diverted with another child. I feel almost bad by being excited at the prospect of another bub, like maybe ds one isn't enough or I'm being ungrateful or greedy.
    All non-first children have to share their parents from the start, and they usually turn out alright

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    it's not so much bub #2 I'm worried about, it's more just am I cutting short this precious one on one time with ds1. like should I enjoy this special time more? I'm trying to savour every moment as you read so many articles where mums lament how they miss it just being them and bub #1.

    I guess it's natural to feel that though whenever your second bub arrives, be it 12 months or 3 years down the track.

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    I think you're crazy 😳😜😂

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    Quote Originally Posted by hakuna matata View Post
    I think you're crazy 😳😜😂
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    you're probably right!!!

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    Obviously I can't comment on the close gap, but I think you feel like you're missing out on your first child no matter what the gap. I miss hanging out with DS. BUT I absolutely love seeing him with DD. It's brought out a whole new side in him.

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