ok so my LO is only 9 weeks old so not sure I'm quite ready to do the newborn thing again right now, but started thinking about number 2 these last few days. how old was your first born when you had number 2?
I'm definitely keen to have another one, just not sure how soon is too soon?
I'm 36 in July, I'd like to be "done" by 38. or at least have 2 by 38, perhaps leaving the door open for an accident/surprise baby #3 (should temporary insanity take hold 😂)
whilst all this newborn/baby stuff is fresh, I'd like to maintain a bit of momentum. rather than having to keep all the baby stuff for a few years then truck it all out again. May as well keep it in use whilst we are on a roll 😂 (this is obviously a purely practical reason)
I found out this week that my boss is retiring soon (I'm yet to get details, will hopefully have more concrete info this week). depending on what happens with his business and whether I still have a position when I intend to go back (sept/oct this year), it may be better to have another baby and take more time off then go back to work once bub 2 is 6-7 months old? I'm just thinking if I do find myself in a position where I'm looking for a new job, who's going to take see 36 year old mum as a serious candidate? it's pretty much a given I'll be wanting to have another and will be looking to take mat leave so who's want to hire me. will be a hard sell at best, completely disheartening and a waste of time at worst I think. I could of course be wrong but I'm being realistic here.
I'd like my children to be close in age.
if we do have issues falling pregnant this time round, I'd like to find out sooner rather than later. that way if we need assistance (ivf etc) we know about it sooner rather than later.
is it better to have 2 young kids?? like if ds 1 is under 2 years of age, is this easier or harder? I'm thinking easier as maybe he won't be old enough to get "jealous" of another baby, won't be doing kinder drop off/pick up etc.
if I'm home, we won't have to spend anything on childcare as I can have ds at home with me full time.
I have the capacity to do my line of work from home and have a few clients already. I could look at building this up a bit more to generate a bit of income whilst I'm off work.
finances would take a slight beating as its more time off than we originally planned. we didn't really do a budget or save for my mat leave either. we have decent buffers but I don't want to eat into savings/investments to fund having a baby.
depending on how soon we fell pregnant, I might not be able to try for vbac (having had cs for ds). I admit this isn't a massive put off though. whilst a vaginal delivery would be a nice experience, I'm not letting it define my choices. it's just a minor consideration at any rate.
we don't have a lot of (any really) practical family help so 2 kids under 2 might be difficult. I'm sure we'd cope but it's an important consideration.
2 under 2 might be a recipe for disaster!?
anything else I've not considered/left off?
really keen to hear the experiences and thoughts of others.