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    Default What to do, what to do.

    I've got a bit of a case of the mummy guilts so just venting it here a bit.
    I've been looking into starting a new career and hubby is being very supportive and everything but I just don't know if it's the right thing to do.
    Training will involve me doing a mix of on campus training in Sydney and field training (not sure where yet) but Sydney is currently 10 hours from me and it's all very dependant on where the field training is.
    While it's not ideal, it's doable. We would just have to find out where I am able to do the field training, to decide when I can go for the job. If I can get it somewhere within say 5 hours from here, I will be alright, as it's 12 hour shifts so I can still come home and see my babies as you get big chunks of day off. If it's nowhere nearby, I will have to look at doing the course once we move in about 5 years time (we were already planning to do so).
    But then I start feeling guilty. I am the little stay home mum that does things like canteen and market stalls. I'm home in the afternoons for homework and afternoon tea. If I get a job, that kind of goes away. I could potentially be dragging the family halfway across the state for a job. I don't know how holidays will work and one of my children, my 4yo son, has autism so there are his appointments to think of. Hubby has said that if I score a fulltime job near somewhere he can transfer to (both would be state government and I know they do make some allowances for married couples) he has said he will happily work casual or part time so we don't have to use daycare or anything. I just don't know what to do. I was always going to be the Mum thats always around. Me taking on a reasonably demanding career will change that. We discussed me waiting instead, til the kids are older, but 40+ seems so late to be just starting a career. I just feel like I am being selfish by choosing to go down this route.
    On top of that, we are currently trying for another baby, (current children are 6, 4, 3, 2) which I think might be silly if I am just going to up and do this anyway. I wouldn't apply til after this potential bubs comes along.

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    What do you want more? A career or being at home with your 5 kids FT.

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    It's not the having a career in general I'm after, it's this job in particular. Always been a dream. I love being home with my kids but I also know that one day I'll suddenly be left with an empty house and I don't want to have to start from scratch then. I guess I just feel like I'm putting myself first by taking a career that I want. And maybe I should be concentrating on just being wholly there for them for the next decade instead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goosey01 View Post
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    Totally get where you are coming from! I'm studying atm and at times find it overwhelming. Hard to know if it's the right choice. Sometimes just want to be Mummy (7, 6, 2, 1 - and hoping for no. 5). But it's the long term. Studying and working towards a career for me is for when I have that empty next and will definitely be looking for somewhere to channel all my energy. I think if it's doable it is good for the long term. good luck


 

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