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    Default Stag do... WWYD/Say

    Quote Originally Posted by PinkTutu View Post
    Eh yeah apparently he did! Now apparently I am freaking out about something that not even happening; he doesn't even know the dates could be December... Sorry buddy still not an option 4 weeks/8 weeks not happening. Que fight about me always being angry at him.... Blah blah blah.
    Tell him to stop giving you reasons to be angry at him.

    I don't get why men put the 'needs' of their mates above their wives. Men who don't want to be called soft or under the thumb by their mates.

    I just wish that everyone would understand that family is always #1. If your family's need outweighs the needs of a friend, family should come first and friends should understand this.
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    Is it his best friend? Or really close friend?

    I'm sorry but I'd have no issues with a stag night AFTER bub was born for his best friend. so late Nov/early Dec. Even if it was 5 days in NZ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    Is it his best friend? Or really close friend?

    I'm sorry but I'd have no issues with a stag night AFTER bub was born for his best friend. so late Nov/early Dec. Even if it was 5 days in NZ.
    but you're used to an absent husband? perhaps the OP feels overwhelmed and needs the support?

    to say you're ok with a 5 night jaunt overseas when bub is tiny and she has an older kid is just applying YOUR situation to someone else and then saying what's the issue. there's no one size fits all. if she has a problem with it, I take that to mean she needs support.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    but you're used to an absent husband? perhaps the OP feels overwhelmed and needs the support?

    to say you're ok with a 5 night jaunt overseas when bub is tiny and she has an older kid is just applying YOUR situation to someone else and then saying what's the issue. there's no one size fits all. if she has a problem with it, I take that to mean she needs support.
    Totally agree. It would be very hard to be alone with a newborn and a toddler.

    However, if you want to let him go, is there anyone who could stay with you? Mum, sister, friend? They could watch the older bub while you focus on the newborn. That's the only way I'd let the post baby trip happen.

    Pre-baby, I'd be annoyed he's even considering it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    but you're used to an absent husband? perhaps the OP feels overwhelmed and needs the support?

    to say you're ok with a 5 night jaunt overseas when bub is tiny and she has an older kid is just applying YOUR situation to someone else and then saying what's the issue. there's no one size fits all. if she has a problem with it, I take that to mean she needs support.
    In Rose's defence the OP asked WWYD and Rose just said what she would do. She never said the OP wasn't entitled to not be happy with the scenario.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    Totally agree. It would be very hard to be alone with a newborn and a toddler.

    However, if you want to let him go, is there anyone who could stay with you? Mum, sister, friend? They could watch the older bub while you focus on the newborn. That's the only way I'd let the post baby trip happen.

    Pre-baby, I'd be annoyed he's even considering it.
    Yes my parents are only 5 mins away and would have no issue at all helping out. I actually suggested my mum would be able to help me if he had to go away for work when the baby was a few weeks old which he completely ruled out, said he just wasn't traveling at that time and has already told work this. So it's a major backpedal now that there is a opportunity for a jolly and I think it's out of order.

    Then there's the fact that we'll be down to one income and it's the month before xmas dropping $2k on a stag seems a bit like misplaced priorities. I just feel like I shouldn't have to point any of this out to him, and be put in the position of saying "no".

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    I would be saying no not on, but would still expect my dh to try it

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    No way would I be ok with it. Not in the slightest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkTutu View Post
    Yes my parents are only 5 mins away and would have no issue at all helping out. I actually suggested my mum would be able to help me if he had to go away for work when the baby was a few weeks old which he completely ruled out, said he just wasn't traveling at that time and has already told work this. So it's a major backpedal now that there is a opportunity for a jolly and I think it's out of order.

    Then there's the fact that we'll be down to one income and it's the month before xmas dropping $2k on a stag seems a bit like misplaced priorities. I just feel like I shouldn't have to point any of this out to him, and be put in the position of saying "no".
    You've probably hit the nail on the head there. No you shouldn't have to say anything to him. He's just being selfish.

    I hope he will begin to see this of his own accord rather than having to be told it's not fair on you. And $2k!? Would he be happy if you spent $2k on just yourself!?

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    I'm not sure how I would feel. With no 2 DH went back to work after a week. I would be fine for a night or 2 - but to a different country for up to 5 nights then most likely not.


 

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