We did a pre marriage counselling, and we both read a book that was religious? but not so exactly to one faith. The book covered many different elements about child raising and discipline. We both agreed with most everything in the book. We were on a the same page, but our methods were a bit different at first. Also, my Dh had a job that took him away for an average of three weeks occasionally, so I was doing everything on my own sometimes. I just want to say, it is not easy to get everything right and to agree with everything that your partner does. Life is a series of compromises, and you have to find a middle ground. If this is becoming a serious treat to your stability as a family, then you need to take proper steps to find a solution. perhaps there is a method you can both agree on, and also include the children in the best method that they are happy with. (If your children are old enough ) ? marie.