It's not just yelling, it's the fact he doesn't acknowledge anyone else's feelings or opinions. He's right and we're wrong. If he says something (even if he doesn't mean it-he says the wrong thing) that hurts the kids and they get upset, I'll say " you hurt their feelings" he'll say "oh I didn't mean to say that" " yeah but you still hurt their feelings" but we just argue because he thinks oh well I didn't mean it and they need to get over it..
Instead of just saying sorry and realising what he did.
He thinks I'm always ganging up on him with the kids.
He went away last week for 4 days and my daughter said " when is it mums turn to go away?" And he says " well I'm not looking after you and putting up with you"
He's got this whole " kids should be seen and not heard" issue going on.