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    It's not just yelling, it's the fact he doesn't acknowledge anyone else's feelings or opinions. He's right and we're wrong. If he says something (even if he doesn't mean it-he says the wrong thing) that hurts the kids and they get upset, I'll say " you hurt their feelings" he'll say "oh I didn't mean to say that" " yeah but you still hurt their feelings" but we just argue because he thinks oh well I didn't mean it and they need to get over it..
    Instead of just saying sorry and realising what he did.
    He thinks I'm always ganging up on him with the kids.
    He went away last week for 4 days and my daughter said " when is it mums turn to go away?" And he says " well I'm not looking after you and putting up with you"

    He's got this whole " kids should be seen and not heard" issue going on.

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    How does such late starts to the day affect your home schooling?

    If he only works a few hours a week and the kids are home there isn't much respite for either side.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Homeschooling4 View Post
    He went away last week for 4 days and my daughter said " when is it mums turn to go away?" And he says " well I'm not looking after you and putting up with you"

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    OP : enough is enough you need to put a stop to this!.

    This type of talk will have your kids living in fear, anger and resentment. Believe me when I say if you do not do right by them now, if you do not stick up for them and DEMAND they be treated with love and respect by the adults in their life, as they get older and wiser they will hold it against YOU.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    OP : enough is enough you need to put a stop to this!.

    This type of talk will have your kids living in fear, anger and resentment. Believe me when I say if you do not do right by them now, if you do not stick up for them and DEMAND they be treated with love and respect by the adults in their life, as they get older and wiser they will hold it against YOU.
    I will second this. While my father was never really directly horrible to me, he never told my mother to cut that **** out and treat me decent, so he is deemed horrible by association. I talk to neither of them anymore. It was his job to stick up for me, he didn't, and it's unforgivable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    OP : enough is enough you need to put a stop to this!.

    This type of talk will have your kids living in fear, anger and resentment. Believe me when I say if you do not do right by them now, if you do not stick up for them and DEMAND they be treated with love and respect by the adults in their life, as they get older and wiser they will hold it against YOU.
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    You are their voice, their protector. If you don't stand up to this prick what is that teaching them?

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    I never once said I don't stick up for them, in fact I said he expects me to be on his side all the time but I refuse to when I think he's overreacting and being a pr!ck.
    There are times I do back him up but I pick my battles. If he's being ok with the kids and just nicely saying to stop fighting for example, that's when I back him up. If he constantly lectures and very negative and says "these kids are difficult/bad/etc" I'll pull him up on it.

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    Sorry if it's been mentioned already but can I ask how old your children are?

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    11, 9, almost 7 and 2.

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    When on earth do you and your DH get down/together time from your kids, with them up so late? Unless you don't go to bed until 1am?...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaybaby View Post
    When on earth do you and your DH get down/together time from your kids, with them up so late? Unless you don't go to bed until 1am?...
    I agree. My husband and I have 3 kids together (no step children for either of us) and our kids are 7, 5, 3 and my 7 and 5 year old are in bed by 8pm at the latest. The 3 year old goes to bed between 6:30-7:30, depending on how tired she is. It is our down time. We don't have any family around to help and this is often the only time we have alone together. I think it is so important in a relationship to have even just 10 minutes a day to be in each other's company without anybody else.

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