How do you deal when you and your partner aren't on the same page when it comes to parenting and discipline... ?
I'm laid back, partner is somewhat strict.
I let the small things go, I talk to the kids about why we shouldn't do XYZ and let them know it's ok to feel angry but not ok to hit for example.
Partner thinks I'm too soft and should punish at all times.
I believe kids should shown love even when they aren't on the best behaviour ( but still be firm and as I said explain why we don't do certain things and have them say sorry and maybe other things eg clean up their mess if they have thrown things )
One thing we do agree on is no smacking...
I do yell but I am working on this and hsve even taken anger managment classes, but partner refuses to change or even meet me half way saying that I need to be on his side.
I think he gets too strict and dishes out punishments too quickly before giving the kids a chance. He gets mad over stupid stuff ( well I guess maybe to him it's not)..
We have four kids. Two at home full time. Two in a co-op school 2 half days a week (parents usually stay anyway)...
I know he gets stressed and I do too but there's so much tension and I feel like the kids can't step out of line one centimetre or he flies off the handle..
Any suggestions? I have learnt to walk away if an argument is about to start but it's not easy. Even his parents tell him he needs to relax.