I guess once you get into a routine things settle down ok. My problem is that ds2 is just so demanding, if I have to have him with me while trying to put ds1 to bed he's jumping around screeching, trying to rip pages of book, crying etc so it just ends up being quite stressful. At the moment I think I'm just struggling with not having a clear plan of what I want and what is working. Part of the time I try and accept that if ds2 needs me to sleep next to him that's not a problem, but then he's not always that happy doing that either. Last night even though he was in bed with me he was still waking up every 30 mins, sitting up and screaming as he was frustrated at not being able to sleep. When he gets like that he won't even feed or lie on me so it's just so draining to try and calm a hysterical baby all night. And I think seeing how he was during the evening just made me realise that I don't think it would work for me as i need those couple hours of downtime and to be spending them going in and out of his room 10 times to settle him, having dinner ruined as I couldn't keep an eye on it etc just stressed me out. I just want some sleep. It's crazy that some days I wake up and think "wow that was an amazing night. He only woke at 10,1,3 and 4 for feeds but slept in between." Most people complain about a couple of night wakings but if I could at least have a few hours break in between feeds and have a baby that is happy sleeping not up and down all night i would be happy.
I have a fitness monitor that tracks sleep and it's interesting to see the difference between a good and bad night.
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Good night with 4 feeds (ignore times as we were in Spain)
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Last night. 😩