I'm sorry but I tend to be a realist. Realistically 99% of people don't have a dream job they jump out of bed for. Most people aren't doing the job they picture when they started studying. I work in a petrochemical lab full of people with forensics degrees 😄.
If you want a plan make a plan. At the moment I don't care what I do as long as it suits my family needs by paying the bills and giving me time with the kids. I'm a solo mother by choice with a 4yo and 2yo. I guess I have a "career", it's a job I don't mind and it pays well. I consider myself very lucky. But do I have a burning desire to test fuel? No. Was it my lifelong dream? No. Am I happy? Yes.
In my opinion this isn't about a career it's about finding happiness, and I'm not sure a career can do that.
Tbh that sounds like a great plan! I love how I am not the only dreamer here on this board.... I do feel guilty about feeling the way I do, being this driven and passionate about career, when other mothers are more selfless and devote their time to sahmhood.
I wish you luck! I think a plan like that with timelines is what I am going to need...
Thank you for sharing.
I did a six month cert III in Admin which is enough to get in the door on starting wage. This was after being SAHM of three kids over 7 years-
There are always jobs and a lot are good hours for working parents (single mum myself by choice) It's not fun but it pays the bills and gives you work life balance- and if you do well you can usually branch into other things through a company or transferable skills.
It's not a dream job but it's a start of you want your foot in the door and need a wage to support your little ones.
I'm not going into this for pay...I'm going into this for passion, and to be.........I don't know how to put it. Me. Because right now I feel a bit flat and like a worn out cloth rag.
I'd rather gouge my eyes out with forks than do book keeping to be honest. That sounds highly unpleasant to me.
Dental assistant could work, but again, I'm not doing this for money, and I guess a dental assistant job won't really take me where I want to go in the future. Thank you for your input though.
a) forgotten everything;
b) feel so worthless and disgusted in myself that I don't feel like I am worth anything. Certainly not worthing paying. These are my own fleas that I'm definitely going to need to work on, by going to work.
It's a good thought.
In regards to why I was dissatisfied - I guess it was because in the other thread there was a lot of empathy for the mothers that felt that they weren't get very high up now that they are mothers even though they want to be put in the effort; and I'm exactly the same, I'm not wanting to just sit there, I'm just worried that it's never going to happen for me. If that makes sense?
Testing fuel sounds pretty exciting to me haha (no, serious).
I know what you are saying - paying the bills is enough. But I think my kids deserve to see the mum that I used to be. The full of life and hope one. Maybe that was just youth speaking, but I miss those days I was full of zest. And I know it's possible; I want to go back to that feeling every day. It's late and I'm rambling, please let me know if you don't get the gist of what I'm saying.
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I'm not a single parent, but I do have a shift working husband who is rarely, if ever, able to watch the kids for me while I do anything. My 4 kids are all 6 and under so still quite reliant on me and I live in a remote area so my options are limited. My in-laws are 10 hours away and I'm estranged from my family so no support there. I also suffer in educational settings (attention span and few other problems) so I have put off doing anything. I am currently trying to work out how to get my foot in the door with paramedical science which is a dream for me.
The way I look at it is, even if I never get anywhere with it, and end up just having half a course under my belt and work sweeping at a fruit shop, at least I did something, I tried. IF I get beyond my education and actually get to work in the field, then I'm there. Even at the lowest rung, I am there. Working my way up can be dealt with later.
My mother told me once "everyone hates their job. You're not special, why do you get to be any different" and that stuck with me for the longest time. But now I think, why not me?? I may not get my dream job but I would be happy with anything along the way. So for now, I am going to continue as a little housewife and pick up as many distance education courses as I can that I think will help, and I am also submitting my application to be a volunteer ambulance officer (my town is small, that's all we have here. No actual paramedics) and I will figure the rest out later. Baby steps. They kids aren't going to be little forever. There will come a time when they don't need you as much, and you don't need to take on the "mummy jobs" that offer flexibility and good balance. So for now, kick around in those jobs, study, and work towards what you will be doing in 10 years from now.
That's how I see it anyways. I could be way off.
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