I feel the reason my fiancé is so hesitant is because he knows that in order to pursue this with a doctor, he will have to discuss it with his ex and she is not easy to deal with.
What will you do about this? This is very serious.
That's not healthy exploration, OP.
It may be 'innocent', in that she may have seen part of a TV show/music video etc. that really wasn't age-appropriate. It may be a lot more sinister.
Perhaps start with a child abuse helpline? They could discuss it in more detail and give you ideas of what to analyse and where to go.
Why hasn't your fiancé / boyfriend sat down with his daughter and had a conversation about her behaviour and ask some curious questions?
Also he can't honestly be serious that his reluctance to do anything is because his ex is challenging to deal with? Not enough of a reason if there are real concerns that something untoward is or has happened. If he thinks a visit to a GP is necessary, he doesn't need to communicate that to his ex. Much easier if the adults could adult, but if they're not adulting very maturely it shouldn't impact on this child's wellbeing. Although I'm not sure a GP is necessarily best equipped in this situation, instead a child psych may be best - again to ask curious questions without causing this child harm.
OP, have a read of this , I just happen to be speaking to a girlfriend of mine who works for child services, she's adamant you should contact them as soon as you can as this behaviour is classified as "very concerning sexual behaviour "
SSecret Squirrel (26-04-2016)
I would be very concerned, please take her to a professional who is trained in talking to children about these things. You can probably call an assault helpline and get so recommendations. It's very important how she is spoken to because you don't want to be asking her leading questions. Good luck OP.
I just spent all day today in a child sexual abuse workshop
Please please get this sorted. The child is expressing something that needs serious attention. It's not a developmental stage- she has witnessed or experienced what she's expressing.
Please contact Bravehearts and get immediate support and help
This child is crying out for help the only way she knows how
I agree this is very concerning, and I would consider it to be reportable if I worked with a child displaying this behaviour. Is there any reason you can think of OP that your fiancé would be so reluctant? Because I find that really strange, to be honest with you.
I think your gut instinct seems pretty sound here.
Pregnant for the first-time?
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