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    Default *trigger* Highly sexual 3 year old or curious 3 year old?

    I have a 6 year old son and my fiancé has a daughter who is soon to be 4. Over the past 3 months, she has become very sexual! She has begun regularly masturbating which we know is quite normal in children this age and are guiding her to not do it In public. However, it seems to have crossed the line between sexual curiosity and sexuality. She is acting sexual acts our towards my son and I am just not ok with it!! This has been on going and doesn't seem to improve, and it seems that it is really amplified when he is around as we haven't yet seen her touch herself when he isn't around (if he's at school or something) but when he's here she can't seem to control herself. I expressed my concerns to my boyfriend and he seems to think it's part of her curiosity and sees it as a stage. I'm really uneasy at how graphic the actions she's doing her. Any advice is appreciated!
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    I don't have any advice really either but I would be wondering how she even knows what sexual acts are in order to act them out?

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    I don't have any advice, but I do have a just turned 4 dd. Who told you that this behaviour was normal? Sorry but I don't think it is. I would be really worried about where she is learning that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkTutu View Post
    I don't have any advice, but I do have a just turned 4 dd. Who told you that this behaviour was normal? Sorry but I don't think it is. I would be really worried about where she is learning that.
    Masturbation is common in kids. They have found something that feels nice so they continue to do it.

    Acting out sexual behaviours isn't though, does the little girl spend time with any other adults? Could she see them having s.e.x.

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    M@sturbation is completely normal. Acting out s£x acts is not. I would be very concerned about where she is learning these acts, & if she has possibly been abused. I would also be very concerned if the 6 year old boy was possibly encouraging the behaviour with her in private. Sorry to be so blunt, but I think there is a high chance something else is going on with this little girl, & someone has possibly shown or done something to her if she is acting out s£xual things.

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    Default Highly sexual 3 year old or curious 3 year old?

    I agree with the pps. I would be worried about what she has seen, TV, older siblings or adults that has exposed her to these behaviours (not the playing with herself, this is quite common as other have said). Not to be an alarmist but as a teacher, inappropriate sexual behaviour in young children is something we are taught to look out for as an indication of possible sexual abuse.

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    You need to seek the advice of a professional. Her behaviour is concerning and I would start by taking her to the GP as soon as possible. Your fiancé not taking this seriously or being concerned is a worry.
    There could be reasons for her behaviour that are not abuse or exposure to inappropriate material but until you have clear proof please be careful, both for yourself and your son.

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    Does your boyfriend have other kids? I don't understand why he would believe that is normal or 'a stage'... I agree with PP's that this may be something to be very concerned about.. Yep, masterbation, normal, completely heathy.. The other must have been shown.. Do you and your partner watch pornography? Does he have and magazines or dvd's anywhere she may have found them? I know in this day and age everything is on the Internet but if he doesn't want you to know about it it's much easier to hide a book or disc than delete all prompts on the computer... I would agree in keeping an eye on your son.. Do they share a bedroom or spend a lot of time together? 7 and 4 is enough of an age gap that they wouldn't be interested in the same things thus not want to be around each other a lot..
    If the child is being physically abused keep an eye out for unusual smells, (not necessarily the private parts, she might begin to sweat more if her body is exposed to testosterone) bed wetting, unusual swelling of the breast tissue.. If she is toilet trained watch for hesitation in using the bathroom, this may indicate she is feeling pain down there..
    I really hope this is not the case and she has just seen something she shouldn't have..
    Good luck and please get to the bottom of this.. Don't be slack or believe it will pass.. The behaviour might, but that doesn't mean the cause is gone...


 

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