Just after some advice about in laws...not sure if im overreacting.
My MIL is a really nice lady but quite insensitive about things. She tends to just do what suits her and not think about what us as parents want. She just announced today to my partner shes purchased all the things to make my daughters 4th birthday cake. Firstly she never asked me if she could make my daughters cake and secondly she announced she is making a "racing car" cake - as my daughter likes cars the movie. I am quite put out as this is something I as a mum wanted to do and she never even asked me if this was ok. But now I feel I cant offend her and say no as she has bought a heap of stuff to make it including an expensive cake tin. I am not really keen on my little girl having a "car cake" either, she is a girly girl!!
MIL also turns up whenever she wants, never calls us first and ALWAYS arrives with presents and unhealthy food. I am just getting to the end of my tether with it all. Don't want a family war but not sure how to tackle it.
Any advice? Thanks