I post this thread because I am confused!
I KNOW WHAT SELF-SETTLING IS! But is it really important?
My DS is 10 weeks and he doesn't self settle, or does he?
During the day, he only sleeps 40 minutes exactly after every hour of being awake. He is fully refreshed and a happy boy.
At night, he is down by 7:30pm and wakes for his usual 1-2 feeds (usually two as I only dropped the dream feed a week ago).
Day and night, he will only go to sleep on my chest, then when he is out, I can put him down. During the day, when he wakes after the 40 minutes, HE IS AWAKE. Yet at night, I see him on the monitor toss and turn at times and open his eyes and then go back to sleep within seconds, so isn't that self settling?
I have been told by one that I have a huge issue on my hands and if he is not self settling by 12 weeks to go to tresillian, yet another says they never had to do that settling cr@p.
I don't believe in "controlled crying" or "crying it out " and I understand that he is only 10 weeks and is SO dependent on me. And this is my point!
Is he self settling at night, which means he knows how to do it? If it's not, do I HAVE to teach him and when? Because I don't like the idea of changing the way he likes to relax. If he needs me, well that's my job isn't it?
Really? What is self-settling and is it absolutely necessary if not now, ever? When?