You might love it with time, I absolutely hated bf for months, my Bub fell in love with it at about 10w over bottle so I persisted but then by 5-6 mths I actually loved feeding him, still feed him at 21 mths..... Was so never gunna!
I fed my 2nd bub to sleep for awhile as she was impossible to get to sleep during the first year but it was frustrating that I was the only one who could get her to sleep.
With bub #3 who is now 16 weeks, he fed to sleep for awhile but has naturally fallen into a feed-play-sleep routine so he breastfeeds when he wakes up, is awake and entertained for 1.5 hrs and then I swaddle him and put him to bed with his dummy and he thankfully self-settles without a murmur. Perhaps once bub is a bit older you could try the feed-play-sleep routine and even if bub doesn't self settle you could try patting, rocking etc.
(He does breastfeed right before bed at night but he waits to be put into his bassinet before falling asleep)
Although neither of my boys really fed to sleep after 3-4 wks (wish they did sometimes!), and always took a bottle first go (little pigs would suck anything!), I completely understand your want and need to have your DD be able to fall asleep in other ways.
IMO she is still too young and u may need to be patient for a little while yet. She will be so much more alert (potentially harder to settle, maybe not though) in the coming weeks so you might find she changes on her own terms anyway. This I know u already know. Just try enjoy this special time it will be over so soon - plenty of time yet to make changes and adjustments to her 'routine' (for lack of a better word).
She isn't capable of forming habits yet. If she is still doing it after 6-8 weeks maybe that is a good time to try changing things up. (I personally believe forth trimester is about 6 weeks). No harm in persisting with trying a dummy or bottle though. I would be doing the same, I need my independence too.
You're very lucky for your Bub to fall asleep by himself (limited or no intervention from you), hopefully will be the case too for the OP. But OP if it isn't the case for you, most young bubs still need help going to sleep, either by boob (which I understand you want to stop) or rocking in arms or prams or cars or swings or by putting down awake in a basinette and slightly rocking it to give movement.
I highly recommend doing the same sequence of things before putting Bub down to sleep so Bub knows what's coming next. So exactly like TC does with the swaddle, same sleep space and personally I always use white noise, it does wonders. I suspect it's that kind of consistency that has helped TCs baby to fall asleep.
Good luck and do what works and if you want to stop feeding to sleep, go for it, I hope it works
Hugs for you, I've been through the same, DS2 set his routine after 4 months.
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