Hi all...its been a long time since I posted. I need some advice from those who have been in this situation before. Let me say right now, I still have yet to approach this with my separated from husband, I was just wondering what others have done.
So we tried for 12 years for our daughter, 3 of those years were on IVF. We ended up using a donor (egg). My AMAZING friend (who would so very happily donate to me again).
So last year we decided to jump on that IVF train again for baby 2, but a few months after getting on that train, I found my hubby cheating on me. He chose the other woman, and as far as he is concerned there is no chance of reconciliation as "he doesn't want to hurt her" (his words).
SO...move us forward 7 months and my mind has been on nothing but the 8 embryos we have in storage. I felt sick at the thought of them just been "thrown away" after trying SO long and hard to get them. And putting my friend through the process of IVF for them. I felt awfully attached to them. I told my (ex) husband he needed to take care of them.
My friend, who I talk to a lot, did some ringing around and long story the embryos have not been destroyed as I first thought, but still existing in the freezer. So of course that dream of #2 is back and wont go away. It never really did. I very much wanted to be a mum of more than one and would love for my daughter to have a sibling. I know how great it is to have (in my case) brothers.
Has anyone else been in this situation where they have embryos in storage, wanted another child and have since separated from their partner?
What did you do?
I feel at such a loss...I cant bear the thought of just letting them go, its breaking my heart and I would very much love #2....even if that means doing it all on my own.
Advice is welcome.