Full House (27-04-2016)
Hi OP, sorry haven't read all the replies but wanted to let you know that I know exactly where you're coming from.
I would say that your career is not ruined when you have a baby but your progression is definitely delayed. When you're part time or not able to stay late or travel at the drop of a hat then you miss out on opportunities, projects, important decisions, training courses, conferences, etc. It's gut wrenching when you've put so much effort into building your career this far, before you had kids. Also I found that you are often doing a full time job in part time hours so you're working like a maniac and you have to make sure that every single deadline is met and every single call answered because you don't want to give anyone an excuse to say that you don't get your job done because you're part time. Pressure is massive.
I have only just gone back to full time (DD is now 9) after being part time for 8 years (in two different jobs). What got me thru the part time years of wondering if my career was wrecked was telling myself "DD is my most important job right now, there'll be plenty of time to build my career again later when she's older and more self-sufficient and I can work more days / longer hours." I was also lucky that I had reasonable bosses and when I'd worked my butt off for a couple of years and they saw that I did add value and was reliable, and willing to be available by phone or email in emergencies even after I'd left for the day at 3pm, they brought me into the conversation a lot more and gave me great opportunities even though I was only part time. I now have a fantastic new job that I got based on all the experiences and opportunities I had in my previous jobs, even though the last two roles I was part time.
Hang in there, your career is not ruined, it's just on hold for a bit.
Last edited by aquarius; 23-04-2016 at 23:39.
One thing i am grateful for now, after my baby making days are over, is that i didnt resign or step out of the work force, and lucky i wasnt made redundant either, which would be tough. I just took mat leave each time then went back. It was tough!!! So many hard days, especially juggling 2 toddlers and work, sometimes with a husband deployed overseas, but i am glad for the benefits now, but i have been in my job 18 years now ( since i finished uni at 23) and that counts for something.
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Congrats Cue. Brilliant.,
Well then. That certainly was a depressing read before bed. What can I say. Bleak, bleak picture.
I don't even have a career. I'll have to build one from scratch, and, well, I don't have a partner or family to fall back on. And I have 3 kids.
Last edited by Brain; 26-04-2016 at 22:07. Reason: it's late, I can't write or spell
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