You have no income of your own (as you are raising his babies) , all your DHs income is his own after bills, and he kindly gives you pocket money , but you have no access or idea about what $$ are in the accounts. That is not a partnership.
Sounds like there is much more to this than p*rn....
I have no income of my own even as the breadwinner. Everything is allocated and anyspare goes aside for the kids.
Before we jump on the money issue id like to hear if he is teying to keep things in the dark or it has just hapoened that way or if there is some other kind of mutual agreement
What if something goes pear-shaped and (for example) he is laid up in hospital, or stuck overseas, or loses his wallet or a myriad of other reasons...and you get stuck with no money or even access or idea as to how to access family money.
Or even worse, if he decides to walk out and you are left with nothing and no access to anything, and no idea what financial position your FAMILY is even in??
Ashar, you have said it a number of times already in this thread and I'm sure you tell yourself this on a regular basis, but you have a lot of issues in your relationship and also issues of your own that go way beyond your husband watching p0rn.
What I would do in your situation is seek some counselling ASAP. For yourself and also couples counselling. Honestly, with the things you have Written about what your "dear" husband has said, and his seemingly controlling position in the family, I would probably just up and leave if it was me, but with 2 little ones, no income and low self esteem, that's a lot easier said than done. Counselling first, and then try to figure out if it's even worth staying in this relationship. It's obviously impossible for complete strangers to judge your situation, but based solely on what you have a written, he really doesn't deserve you, regardless of how much money he makes or how many fans he has.
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