Side tracked ..... does that mean I can spend some money on myself
However, choosing to spend that money on porn, to the exclusion of a physically intimate relationship with his wife...that's the part I find somewhat selfish and problematic.
It just seems that he is choosing to spend his play money on something that actually harms his relationship with his wife.
Last edited by Albert01; 16-04-2016 at 22:18.
I agree with you that people deserve spending money. That doesn't mean that what they choose to spend it on will never cause conflict.
OP, you have every right to your emotions, it seems like a very difficult situation to be in. I hope you can find the love and support you deserve.
My partner watches porn and reads pornographic comic books. I personally don't mind. He watches it and may be aroused, but he isn't emotionally attached to the actresses like he is to me. I read the comics sometimes too and the storyline is actually pretty good, and I've always told him I don't mind if he looks at other women whether it's in person or online etc as long as he doesn't think about sleeping with them because if that happens then there's serious problems in our relationship.
Hang on your p said he doesn't mind what you do with other people as long as he doesn't find out??? That is a screaming red flag to me I'm sorry but it's almost like he's trying to make it okay for him to cheat. With that comment, the messages and photos with other women and lack of sex I'd be very concerned. Sorry I don't make you feel better but the porn is the last thing id be worried about
Hugs to you xx
The money spent isn't really the problem. He gets all his pay from his job into his own account & he pays all the bills & anything left over is his, I have know idea how much this is. After bills probably not much. The amount of a p0rn subscription isn't so much the amount of money it's just the thought of it being spent on that IYKWIM. I don't even know what one gets for subscribing? & why would you when there's enough free to watch anyway. So don't worry I don't control his money.
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