I think the lorn thing has been covered. I would not know what hardcore illegal stuff is. Conrent woth somethjng that is realistic. Sometimes we watch it together and my dp knows I sometimes watch it alone.
Being called babe, hun, darl or the like is not on its own anything to be worried about. Inhabe a few women Ichat with on messenger that might use such. I am either incredibly naive or correct in assuming they say that to everyone and it means nothing. Im more embarrassed about whatbothers might think if they saw it lol. Rest of content has nothing to raise an eyebrow just the signing off. My brothers widow calls me darl still and she has a new bf since my brothers passing.
Sex droppig off after 15 years is quite normal.
Him meeting someone behind the scenes so to speak. That would be an issue particularly if he was teying to keep it a secret. That tied in with a woman calling him darl etc would make me more suspicious.