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    Default Por.nography and relationships

    How does/has/would p.ornography affect your relationship?
    Does your partner watch it & you don't mind? or watch together. Or does he hide it from you?
    How would you react if you found out?

    I've recently found out my partner has been watching a lot and it's given me such low self esteem and made me feel unattractive. I asked him about it but all he could go on about was me going through his phone. It sounds silly because most men probably watch & it's no big deal but it's really hurt me & I don't know if I can get over it. Any advice?

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    Is wait til all is cooled down then have a sit down chat and ask why etc then explain how it makes you feel.

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    Default Por.nography and relationships

    I don't buy the "most men watch it" mantra.

    I wouldn't be cool with it at all. Because of my understanding on the se* trade, pornography and its preying on vulnerable women I could never see it as an acceptable past time.

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    Interesting first post OP...

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    Thanks, I did tell him how it makes me feel, but he just brought up other issues. He's FIFO so haven't heard from him since he left Wednesday.

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    "Interesting first post" yeah new account name. I usually posted in the IVF threads.

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    It's understandable that he'd be on the defence as he probably felt his privacy was invaded. I'd say give it some time and talk rationally when he gets back.

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    If he's FIFO I don't really blame him to be honest. If his beautiful wife isn't within reach for weeks on end then he probably uses porn to clean the pipes.

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    Apologise for going through his phone and give him a hall pass for non personalized p0rn while he is away on FIFO.

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    Thanks for the replies. He's only away for a week at a time, 1 on 1 off and he doesn't usually want to DTD with me when he is at home. 😢


 

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