I think women in general are judgemental about the child-rearing choices we make. Return to work early; you are getting child care to raise your children. Stay at home to look after your children & you are living off government benefits. I am a sahm with a 1,3 & 5yo. 'Society' doesnt value me as a sahm. But I am an Early childhood teacher, so I could run a family daycare in my home with 4 children wno are not my own. Voila! I am making money & am valuable again. Doing the exact same work, with someone else's kids instead of my own. I do volunteer work in my community 2-3 days a week. I still dont know if I'm 'valued' for it - it's unpaid,so my guess is no... but I am working outside the home doing it,so maybe yes?
Either way, we will be judged for what we do by someone. Child care costs the taxpayer a lot,so does FTB, and so does school - according to the thread on educational funding the other day, you are saving the taxpayer appx 10k per child per year to educate them at home. I say it all evens out in the end I would try to ignore stupid comments like hers, or remind her hos much you are SAVING thd government by not using child care or school
ETA - I will be a SAHM until ny youngest is preschool age at the least. Child care isnt right for *my* family, & I personally dont ever want to put my kids in child care. There is nothing wrong with that. Just as there is nothing wrong with homeschooling until a child is 18, or returning to work when your child is 3 months old. Women fought long and hard to give us the choices we have today. Lets be thankful for our choices and embrace them, whatever they may be!