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    Default Rude?

    If you're a sahm and somebody said to you "so you're only staying home because the government pays you"
    How would you feel? What would you say?

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    I'd be pretty annoyed, but whether or not I would.say something would depend on who it was. It would probably be "well actually I stay at home to look after my kids. But if that's what you want to believe, go right ahead. Nothing I say will change your mind."

    If I didn't know them, then I would just roll my eyes and walk away.

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    well of course it's rude. incredibly rude.

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    I would say that it's a bonus but not the only reason. I would explain that it's great that the government are able to support women to stay at home for as long as possible with their kids.

    I wouldn't think It was rude, I would just think that person was uneducated

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    Of course it is rude.

    My reply would be "I am a stay at home Mum, but I get zero from the government, not that it's any of your business".

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    If you're homeschooling 4 kids then you're actually saving the government money.

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    I would need to consider the specific circumstances and whether there was any truth to the statement.

    There might be a few cases where that statement is true - for example women on mat leave who would be back at work already if it wasn't for ppl. In those cases I would probably still think they were a little rude and go "yeah - what's your point?".

    If there was no truth to the statement if it was a stranger I would probably just give them a look and walk off. Someone I knew I would probably gob off back to them.

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    My sister said this. She doesn't have any kids in school yet. I have four school ages children but we started home schooling last year. She didn't agree with it. She told me I should get a job. I told her I wasn't ready as my youngest is only 2. Before he was born though I was working part time (2 half days a week). If I got a job at night (2 nights) I wouldn't mind for a bit of extra money but I'm in no hurry to work full time.
    She went on to say that if I got a job we would be able to afford to spoil the kids. My children get what they need and what they want within reason. I told her I would rather have less money and more time with my children and family then be working just to pay for daycare and missing out on their lives. I said i enjoy spoiling my children with quality time.
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    Sounds like you said all the right things.

    Honestly who cares what other people think.

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    Yeah. You said all the right things.

    She is rude. It's probably a case of 'she does not have kids and does not understand' but it still does not excuse what she said (which is rude!).

    Nothing wrong with being a SAHP. It is a personal choice.


 

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