@winsor, hugs hon You sound so conflicted!
In moving forward with the decision to find DE, hubby and I considered the following factors:
- Age of the donor
- Cost of DE cycles
- Location of donor
- Our preference for our own clinic
- Whether the donor has donated before and their history during previous cycles
- Future contact after donation
- General health/medical family history of donor
We decided that we would like to be open and honest with our future child as to how they were created. We plan to discuss this from as soon as the child is old enough to understand, even in it's most basic form of "You were very wanted, and we needed help to have you."
At the end of the day we feel that as long as our child is loved and supported they will be fine. By the time we get to a stage where our future child is in school conducting biology experiments we would hope that they already have a clear understanding of how they were created. It is also more than likely that a good portion of their peers will be in the same boat by the time that day comes!
We have no concerns about whether our child has similar characteristics to us, other than basic heritage. I think people see what they want to see and I know of two people who have been told that their child looks 'just like them' even though they were IVF/adopted! TBH I try not to look into the whole 'donor aspect' of it so much and just accept it as the gift that it is.
If we manage to find someone to help us, our primary concern is that the baby is healthy. It is probably a simplistic view of it but we believe everything else can be fixed with our love for them.
ETA: One last thing hon. I think it's really important to take some time to allow yourself to grieve before making any big decisions about DE. The beauty of considering this path is that it buys you time. Don't feel like you have to rush into anything and make a quick decision now. There is plenty of time to make those decisions, but right now it is important to look after yourself and DH.
Last edited by Blossom74; 16-04-2016 at 16:50.
I just made up and counted my 'minimal' meds, which include 12 different ones for the cycle. A lot of it is to get me a transferable lining. Plus the essential Synarel, estrogen, progesterone I need with a FET cycle. Plus Clexane (high risk of bloods clots on long haul flight) and baby Aspirin (to quote LB - so I "don't die of a stroke", uhm I didn't realise that was on the cards!!)
I wish I could fly over there at the first site of EWCM, having taken no drugs at all and just whack those embryos in! Hey presto!!
@BlondeinBrisvegas yep i stopped taking dhea day before af. Was told a few days but af came early. Im still taking melatonin but will stop post transfer Monday. I was advised to take 1200mg of pressaries i said i had crinone so nurse said x2 pressaries per day and x2 crinone as crinone 8% is 200mg but on the box it says 90mg progesterone ? Any ideas about this?
@Tahli i think coq10 is for egg quality so no need to take it post transfer. Not sure if there is another reason
infinity888 I wasn't on half those meds so I couldn't say for sure. From what you've listed I was just taking the pred, clexane and HCG boosters that carried on after transfer.
@Bongley the provera, pressaires and progy are new. The pregnl is also new to me. As is the clexane pred intralipids etc for immune stuff. I have found i have a poor/short luteal phase and this effects progesterone production so wazza is loading me up with both oral and pressaries progesterone. Plus the wazza vitamins im taking so many im concerned im going to forget something or take the wrong thing.Im exhausted today from progesterone ive only just begun. Heres hoping my 2 little embies are ready to come home on monday.... i hope your bubba is going well and kicking you occasionally. 😀
@BlondeinBrisvegas Those issues may go a long way to explaining why it took 10 years for my son to come along, esp the MTHFR. I really should take a steroid shouldn't I? Blurgh. Not very Zen! Pred or Dex??
Pred at 10mg is the gentlest, 25mg turned me into a walrus. I was on 10mgs when I got a BFP with the hatching blast with hcg of 100, on 25mgs I got a BFN, changed to Dex and got another BFP (last cycle) but didn't get to registering on hcg blood test. Maybe just the 10mg Pred?
@JulieMalooley You think I'm insane ditching the full immune protocol don't you??
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