Hi ladies. @Tahli fwiw i think a zen cycle with a thaw all 3 and see what happens approach sounds perfect. Follow up new DE fresh cycle from your twin if you need to.
@winsor it would be so difficult to think of all future issues that may or may not pop up. I really think with great parents it wont be a problem as you will work through them as a family unit as they arise. Kids need unconditional love as you know to get through life no matter what it is they face. If they have support it will all be ok in the end. If its not ok then its not the end. Jmo fwiw.