@Caesardust & @tuxcat ....you need to take the time to lick your wounds. My younger sister first offer to be our donor after my very first IVF cycle when we only got 1 egg and were devastated...she was always going to be our back up plan. Little did we know at that time her AMH was less than mine and her eggs crappier than mine. It took me a good 6mths to get my head around even considering using her eggs another 6mths to get around to doing a donor cycle with her eggs...but our back up plan was a fizzer. (My DP is adopted so he was in from the get go...to him family isn't about genetics, its about who raises you and loves you). And it took me probably another month after one last OE cycle to sit myself down and decide what I really wanted...a baby with my eggs, that wasn't going to happen or a baby so my DP and I could have a family of our own. These decisions don't come easily...you will know what is right for you, when the time is right for you.
Just be kind to yourselves and your DP/DH for now...its not time for making decisions.