I used to hear the "It's only a numbers game" thing all the time. And whilst it's nice to think that might always be the case, the truth of the matter is that some of us will hold within us a golden egg and some of us won't.
I was an incredibly poor responder and from 4 cycles I only produced a grand total of 7 eggs. Of those, two went in fresh (separate cycles) and one frozen, and the best I did was a BFP on the frosty one, which MC at 8 weeks.
It's nice to think that if you just keep plugging away at it you will get there in the end, but who has that sort of money?! I ended up resenting the last cycle I did, feeling like I had thrown good money away for nothing. When DH and I approached the bank for a loan and knew we'd be paying it back for the next 7 years I said straight away that I wanted to go with donor eggs.
Looking at my response to each cycle and the quality of my eggs I don't know if I ever would have found one that was ok. Plus, with each cycle it got harder and harder on me physically. The decision to switch to DE and go with the better odds was not hard for me - I felt immediate relief.
I never considered using a cheaper clinic. I knew at my age I needed a tailored protocol, but if that's the only path you have available grab it with both hands! Likewise, if you feel within yourself that you DO have the potential to bring forth a good egg then keep going with your OE cycles. Some women will luck out and have success, but I just knew that I wasn't going to be one of them.
Good luck, whichever way you go
ETA: I never did PGD testing but I can see why so many do. The one thing that I often think back to though is that if I had PGD'd the emby I got my BFP on I never would have transferred it, and would never had known the joy of being pregnant, if but for a brief moment in time. I don't regret my decision not to test for that reason but I can see why so many people choose to do it.
Last edited by Blossom74; 15-04-2016 at 14:04.
Great news @infinity888 😀. I bet you did he happy dance right out of the room.
@Summer I was told I had twilight sedation for egg pick up. I fell asleep and next thing I knew I was in recovery.
3 of my 5 have fertilised. I thought that was ok and what I was expecting but my negative nurse made me feel bad like it wasn't good. I won't be around much as my mother in law has had an accident and fractured her hip and my father in law is not domestic so am will be doing shopping and cooking and running her to appointments. This is going to sound selfish as in a way it is good as my boss has given me next week off as carers leave so won't have to do any rushing to and from transfers. My mother in law said it was about time my father in law became domesticated but he is so gorgeous and helpless that I want to help out.
@Charlie74 hoping to get some to pgd. We decided against a 3 day transfer as we want to see how many if any get there. We will decide on day 5 what we are going to do and that depends on embryos left and how they are looking. It was good chatting to the embryologist before collection. I said most of my miscarriages were not chromsomal so would have passed pgd and he said most likely. What my husband and I got out of that, was that the embryos may have had correct number of chromosomes, but if they had have been IVF and an embryologist was looking at them, they might have classes it as C grade, so I guess weak embryos. He said generally better looking embryos results in live births, but he has biopsied A grade perfect looking blasts that have failed pgd. You really can't pick it.
Anyway I must go and will update next week when I can.
Hello to everyone else and hope you are travelling along well with whatever stage you are up to.
Last edited by calypso75; 15-04-2016 at 14:53.
@Tahli what wonderful news. Dear mysterious hubber, bless you for what you have done. I have met Tahli and she has a gorgeous soul. I hope you are in Melbourne so the siblings can catch up often. If not, I am sure they will see each other once a year.
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