Has any hubber here had a child that has been diagnosed with hyperactivity and how do you go about disciplining them on a daily basis? We are seeing a paed tomorrow to seek advice if DS (5 yo) has hyperactivity and I'm sure he'd give me lots of handful information (or medication, who knows?). I'm glad I booked in for a paed appt as I'm so fed up with his day-to-day behaviour! I'll update here after our paed appt tomorrow.
To be honest I am well aware that DS is a hyperactive boy! He is always full on, never gets tired and whenever he is not using his brain (for e.g. when colouring, painting, writing or reading sounds/words - yep he can read a little bit) he'd go totally crazy he'd behave like a kid who has never been taught on manners, safety and not afraid of consequences! We've reminded him every time that he needs to listen, follow rules, observe things carefully and be aware of dangerous things etc. This needs to be repeated nearly every single day (which I get so tired too sometimes I think come on he's nearly 6 he can't be that bad)... and when I forget to remind him one day, he could be caught in a situation where he's branded as a trouble maker... so he indeed can be that bad! This happened at his vacation care today where he was so full on (i'm sure he was already bored!) and decided to keep running around and jumping up and down the sofa. To make it complete, his daycare teacher was already fed up with other kids' behaviour as well and she couldn't help it but to vent out her anger when she saw me! She was apologetic later on, but she said "I'm sorry, but rules are rules, he needs to listen and follow rules, they are simple rules i.e no jumping up and down the furnitures, no running around, because we are trying to ensure the safety of 30+ kids here". Uhm OK I GOT IT!
now back to DS, I really wonder what a perfect package I have here, not only is he hyperactive, but he is lacking of consistency in discipline, and often unable to follow and obey rules (he is simply not listening!). Is this all the effect that appears from being a hyperactive kid?
I've given warnings, done lots of talks, and told consequences to DS, but however he is still not listening!
One good thing about DS is that he is a quick learner although his teacher claimed that he didn't seem to be able to focus well in class. To my surprise DS is able to recite all the things he's learned at school whether it's numbers, letters, sounds and words as well as simple addition (maths)! he loves singing the song and nursery rhymes he's learnt at school and remembers every single word of it. Actually his assistant principal (who's also in charge of Kindy learning) said she really wonder whether it's discipline problem or hyperactivity that he shows all of these inappropriate behaviours as he's actually bright boy with great memory (that he even knows her name and would come up to her and say hi!)
But I just hate it that he never stops moving (jumping and running) which is considered inappropriate in school (and at after school care) environment! I've gotten angry a few times at him implying that he needs to follow rules and at least be quiet, but sometimes our days could end up worse if I had started becoming upset/angry towards him.
Btw he loves school and his after school care so much! I've actually threatened him that he would not be welcomed there if he continued being a 'naughty' boy. But he didn't seem to care, he knew he'd be needing to go to school every day though.